First dates are your chance to shine or stumble. With the right moves, you’ll leave her wanting more. Here’s how to make it a win and something you both enjoy.

1. Start at Your Place for Comfort

Invite her to your place briefly before heading out. A quick two-minute stop—maybe to grab something or show her a quirky part of your space—sets a familiar vibe. When you return later, she’s already at ease, making the transition smoother.

2. Pick a Familiar Spot to Own the Night

Choose a venue you know like the back of your hand—a cool sushi joint where the staff knows you, or a cozy bar with your go-to drink. Familiarity lets you lead with confidence. If she’s new to the cuisine, guide her gently (without lecturing). Pro tip: A place where the manager might comp your bill? Instant cool points.

3. Mix It Up with a Venue Change

One spot’s fine, but two or three make the night feel epic. After dinner, hit a nearby lounge for a quick drink, or the cool ice cream spot you mentioned before. Multiple stops = of a longer, richer date, amplifying connection without dragging it out.

4. Kiss Early, Skip the Awkward

Don’t save the kiss for the end—it’s a recipe for tension. Make your move mid-date, maybe during a quiet moment or a laugh. It breaks the ice, eases the vibe, and lets you both escalate from there for the rest of the night!

5. Be a Gentleman with a Purpose

Chivalry’s rare, so use it. Walk on the outside of the street, open doors, have her order first. These small moves show she’s valued. During the date plant a seed for later—mention a cool movie, your pet she wants to meet, or let her cash in on that backrub you owe her from the barbet you lost to her, back at your place. Give her a reason to return that’s not just hooking up, so any escalation feels natural, not forced.

Nail these steps, and your first date won’t just be good—it’ll be unforgettable. Ready to level up your game? Check out my coaching options for personalized guidance.