Sick parents

[Maestro]

My father was my hero growing up. He died of cancer when I was 11. As a kid I had to change his IV's, clean his bed pan, and do a lot of care. It was a hard thing to do as a kid.

My stepfather died 3 years ago. I wrote about it here. He influenced me more than I realized.

Always hard to go through these things, but all of us will face it at some point.


When I was 14 I had my first seizure. Lost a week of memory. Really scary. But all of these things made me realize from a young age, how short life is and how vulnerable all of us are. I understood my mortality from an early age. So I appreciate more the little things. And I try to value the time I have with all of the people who are important in my life.

Also reminds us that pettiness and worrying about what people think is pointless. Do what makes you happy because in the end you are the one that has to look at yourself in the mirror.


When my mother remarried, Farmer gave me some good advice. Talking to your parents about what their wishes are and making some arrangements before they get sick can save you a lot of stress if something were to happen. Anyone could be in a car accident and die. Its horrible to think about, depressing and morbid, but it's reality.

Farmer and I have an agreement that whoever dies first the other must reinact the scene from East bound and down where he says Clearly I'm Maverick because I'm still alive.

Love you guys and glad to call you all brothers.

[Guilty Pleasure]

Experienced my first loss last year right before PX.. My uncle died In a car accident. I didn't know how hard it would hit me till the actual funeral. Although death in family is extremely hard and difficult to go through it made me think about all the petty shit I used to argue about with my brothers and such.

Even now I always think about how short life is to waste on petty arguments and holding grudges.

I know at some point I will lose my parents so I strive to work not only for my success but also to give them what ever I can while they are alive and walking this earth.

To those who are going through major battles with treatment and to those who lost family and friends I send prayers and hope all goes in your favor guys.
Also very glad to see those that had scared and dealing with treatments are seeing posi results!

K.C.

[kingdavid]

I've recently had quite a few family issues come up. 1 Uncle wasn't feeling well and his lady took him to the ER. He had a heart attack right there. Recovered and then later had another one. He survived but not at all the same. His brother my other uncle had open heart surgery recently Oct 2013. Both of them really haven't recovered and we aren't sure if they will. On top of all of that my father told me around Christmas 2013 that he was diagnosed with prostate cancer.

I pretty much stopped everything and started looking into ways to spend more time with family (was living in Ireland and Israel at the time). Started looking for jobs back stateside and then relocated. As of today my fathers surgery was successful. Which I'm completely thankful for that I will get to spend more time with him. The 2 uncles are yet to recover. However, there spirits are still high. I've been spending most of my free time with my uncle and my father when he fly's to LV and visits. Even simple things such as a game of billiards with my father is definitely worth the return to the US.

[DJNinja]

Took Dad to the ER on Monday due to symptoms of a stroke.

The good news is that it isn't a stroke.

The bad news is that it's a subdural hematoma - basically a "brain bleed." A few weeks ago he popped a few blood vessels in his brain due to a fall, and because he's on blood thinners to prevent a stroke, he kept bleeding...At the time, it didn't affect him, and it wasn't until he started exhibiting stroke-like symptoms

The good news is that, at his age, the brain shrinks, so there is room for the blood to collect and not really affect him, which is why up until a week ago he was still independent and capable of living on his own. If this condition happened to us at our age, the docs are certain that we would be in a coma.

The bad news is that, given the injury and his age, it's almost certain that once he's done and out of rehab, he will need long-term care and 24 hr supervision...which gets very time-consuming and expensive

Long road ahead for him and my family

[Bravo]

Fuck...

So sorry to hear that man...

Call me if you need me.

[Jackfrost]

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[Kid Brock]

My dad passed away last Monday. He had Pulmonary Fibrosis, which there is no cure for. It is basically scarring tissue in the lungs. It was idiopathic, meaning they do not know how it started.

The last 2 weeks he had switched to a oxygen mask instead of tubes. That allowed him to get more oxygen more efficiently. He showed improvement after using the mask by moving around more, being more alert, and aware. We thought there would be a decline in health before he passed, but my step-mom just came home to him laying lifeless.

He had been shredding some old papers, and talked to a guy that delivered his oxygen tanks 2 hours earlier. The delivery guy said he was in good spirits and playing with the dog when he was there.

I am glad his suffering is over. His last weekend he played with his grand daughter all weekend. On Monday, around 2:30, my step-mom called him, and he was excited about Monday Night Football and asked her to make snacks for the game.

I was told that it appeared that he passed out, but when he fell, his leg unplugged his oxygen tube. So he just went to sleep and did not wake up.

Enjoy the time with loved ones while you have it.

[Maestro]

So sorry for your loss. Sounds like he went peacefully. And really good that he was able to be in good spirits before he left.