DJ and Ice: Coaching thread Thursday Nov 14 - DONE

[romanianmmaguy]

I'm gonna call now in advance a girl, feeling AA, but guess i have to just have to conquer it and take the advice in my sig

Update:no response dammit got worked up again for no reason

No... you didn't get worked up for no reason


There's a reason you're getting worked up when she didn't respond.


What is it?

I got worked up before and while listening to the ringer just for no pick up. After i don't really care and i am mentally ready to next em and get more

Slow down man

let's break this down


What if she was in the shower, in a meeting, in class, her phone was on silent, she was at the gym, driving, etc?


How come you are so quick to next them just because she didn't pick up your phone?

Your right i was being VEEERY stupid. Hb BF is all over me texting after a week of silent treatment. She said she cant come friday cause of work over text and asked if there will be another next week. She is also begging me to have a party and invite her and her friends

[Ice]

You guys were right, i Amog when i dont feel confident enough and sometimes i end up acting weird and doing impulsive things to stand out.

I'm not sure so just checking - are you answering my question here? This is why we ask everyone to quote our replies so we are clear

Yes

So inviting you to go deeper - IF this is something you want our help on


What weird acts are you doing
I say weird crap when my mental state is not up (actually scratch that i just realized that it was not as bad as i thought it out to be. Some guys were talking and one more joins and i shake his hand and say "how do you do?"al

What impulsive things are you doing
Once iwas in a group with a guy iknew a girl and another guy and i randomly kick a sign to show my insane mma skills prompting A "do you have problems?" From the girl

When are you doing them
When my confidence is down, when it's up i smile and am social

What are the reasons you are doing them?

I honestly don't know. Maybe as an escape?

Even when you respond to my questions, it seems you're going through a similar line of thought


So, it seems to me like you are not comfortable yet with being yourself which takes time. Also, you do things that seek attention from others which is a sign of neediness. But when asked to look at it (or shine a spotlight at it), the tendency to overlook, dismiss, and/or avoid kicks in.


This will be one of your biggest sticking points imo. Become comfortable enough to take a hard look at situations that come up and how you react and REALLY look at it. If you do not, you will continue this cycle.

[Ice]

I'm gonna call now in advance a girl, feeling AA, but guess i have to just have to conquer it and take the advice in my sig

Update:no response dammit got worked up again for no reason

No... you didn't get worked up for no reason


There's a reason you're getting worked up when she didn't respond.


What is it?

I got worked up before and while listening to the ringer just for no pick up. After i don't really care and i am mentally ready to next em and get more

Slow down man

let's break this down


What if she was in the shower, in a meeting, in class, her phone was on silent, she was at the gym, driving, etc?


How come you are so quick to next them just because she didn't pick up your phone?

Your right i was being VEEERY stupid. Hb BF is all over me texting after a week of silent treatment. She said she cant come friday cause of work over text and asked if there will be another next week. She is also begging me to have a party and invite her and her friends

It is not up to you to throw a party for her and her friends. Are these the same chicks from halloween that weren't into you?


Ask her what her schedule is like next week, then pick a date that works for you, set up a date, tell her to meet you at a place. If she bails, she's not into you.

In the mean time you should be still approaching and getting more numbers

[Ice]

You guys were right, i Amog when i dont feel confident enough and sometimes i end up acting weird and doing impulsive things to stand out.

I'm not sure so just checking - are you answering my question here? This is why we ask everyone to quote our replies so we are clear

Yes

So inviting you to go deeper - IF this is something you want our help on


What weird acts are you doing
I say weird crap when my mental state is not up (actually scratch that i just realized that it was not as bad as i thought it out to be. Some guys were talking and one more joins and i shake his hand and say "how do you do?"al

What impulsive things are you doing
Once iwas in a group with a guy iknew a girl and another guy and i randomly kick a sign to show my insane mma skills prompting A "do you have problems?" From the girl

When are you doing them
When my confidence is down, when it's up i smile and am social

What are the reasons you are doing them?

I honestly don't know. Maybe as an escape?

Even when you respond to my questions, it seems you're going through a similar line of thought


So, it seems to me like you are not comfortable yet with being yourself which takes time. Also, you do things that seek attention from others which is a sign of neediness. But when asked to look at it (or shine a spotlight at it), the tendency to overlook, dismiss, and/or avoid kicks in.


This will be one of your biggest sticking points imo. Become comfortable enough to take a hard look at situations that come up and how you react and REALLY look at it. If you do not, you will continue this cycle.

I want to reaffirm - the difference between YOU and other guys, is that you are HERE consistently asking for help - looking to improve...


Which is a big difference between winners, and those that are fine with being average - or in denial about having a sticking point.

[Ice]

ThAts me in my hick days.. Dating my cousin but we broke up.. we're still cousins ..

K.C.

I heard that you got circumcised by kicking her in the jaw


True?

[Guilty Pleasure]

Lmao!

[romanianmmaguy]

One last thing. One of my strengths is that I dress well (my parents taught me ) a lot of guys give me shit about it but i realized that it's not because I am being a "try hard" or because i actually dress badly, but because they are jealous so they feel like dragging me down.

For example, wearing my true religions and a red Lacoste V-neck some guy told me "i saw that pair of pants before is that the only one you own?" How do I respond to things like this without starting to defend my clothes or blatantly insulting the guy?

[Ice]

One last thing. One of my strengths is that I dress well (my parents taught me ) a lot of guys give me shit about it but i realized that it's not because I am being a "try hard" or because i actually dress badly, but because they are jealous so they feel like dragging me down.

For example, wearing my true religions and a red Lacoste V-neck some guy told me "i saw that pair of pants before is that the only one you own?" How do I respond to things like this without starting to defend my clothes or blatantly insulting the guy?

http://bravopua.com/blog/

Bravo explains it really well here - "Shit Test" blog

[romanianmmaguy]

One last thing. One of my strengths is that I dress well (my parents taught me ) a lot of guys give me shit about it but i realized that it's not because I am being a "try hard" or because i actually dress badly, but because they are jealous so they feel like dragging me down.

For example, wearing my true religions and a red Lacoste V-neck some guy told me "i saw that pair of pants before is that the only one you own?" How do I respond to things like this without starting to defend my clothes or blatantly insulting the guy?

http://bravopua.com/blog/

Bravo explains it really well here - "Shit Test" blog

Wait I am confused, which one was better? The response to the knife in pocket or jeans?

[Ice]

One last thing. One of my strengths is that I dress well (my parents taught me ) a lot of guys give me shit about it but i realized that it's not because I am being a "try hard" or because i actually dress badly, but because they are jealous so they feel like dragging me down.

For example, wearing my true religions and a red Lacoste V-neck some guy told me "i saw that pair of pants before is that the only one you own?" How do I respond to things like this without starting to defend my clothes or blatantly insulting the guy?

http://bravopua.com/blog/

Bravo explains it really well here - "Shit Test" blog

Wait I am confused, which one was better? The response to the knife in pocket or jeans?

Both. They're all tools you can use.