I can’t call myself a PUA anymore.
Being a “Pick Up Artist” is only “COOL” to guys who can’t get girls.
So many other self proclaimed PUAs have given what I do a horrible name, and rightfully so!
I also haven’t taught PUA stuff in years.
What I have done, is teach guys how to be confident and cool. How to convey that in a non-creepy way, and how to make a connection with new and old friends, in a compressed and usually semi-awkward environment.
I got into Pick UP after my divorce and a miscarriage, because I had issues with WOMEN. Then I figured out that I just had issues with PEOPLE. Only later did I figure out, that I really only had issues with MYSELF.
Before I ever got into the whole crazy world of Pick Up, I was the Director of Training at a big gun range. I wrote and taught all of the advanced firearms classes. I left and started working for a private contracting company and helped teach some pretty badass guys some badass skills.
I started my own company in 2010 and moved back to Arizona and back into the tactical world and have learned more than ever.
I constantly examine my life, looking for areas I can improve (eg wilderness survival skills currently) and do what it takes to master them as well.
This site is my place to share with you, what I think is the most important things every man should know.
How to love yourself and others.
How to protect yourself and your loved ones.
I have been told what I have shared with others has saved lives, helped people more than double their income, find the woman of their dreams, and live the life they always wanted.
I hope some of what I share can help you!
A great coach, a great example, and most importantly a great friend and mentor to every student
-Neil Strauss ( aka Style author of THE GAME )
To say that Stephen has “skills” as a Dating Coach or as an engaging and articulate seminar speaker is an understatement. His presentation, at my –Becoming A Powerful Man Workshop, was filled with so much user-friendly material and practical advice that anyone could start using the information to immediately improve their Dating Results.
-Steve P, SchoolOfSteveP.com
If you want to learn to be MANLY listen to Stephen. If you want to learn how to wear a boa, lipstick, and fingernail paint there are PUA guys that teach that as well. Stephen = two thumbs up
Of the few coaches out there, Stephen is for real. He’s dedicated, a very good teacher, believes in what he is doing and both wants to and actually assists his students in getting results.
GO to his bootcamps and tell him I sent you.
-Ross Jeffries, creator of “Speed Seduction”
If you simply allow him, Stephen WILL change your life. You WILL become solid. No question, he delivers the goods.
From the first moment I saw Stephen I knew he was the real deal. I had been reading about this stuff and on forums and all that but had never actually seen somebody in person who was USING and APPLYING the material like he was. He became an instant mentor to me. His feedback is specific and on point, but he doesn’t pull any punches. If you can’t take constructive criticism you shouldn’t be talking to him, but if you can…your life and love life will improve ten fold within just a few conversations. I know mine did.
-Jay ( Dating Coach )
I’ve been active in the community for a long time and a lot of instructors disappoint.You meet them, see their quirks and shifty eyes, and think, “how the hell does THIS nervous guy attract women?!” But the first time I shook Stephen’s hand I knew instantly he was the real deal. The word that strikes me is SOLID. He emanates self-assuredness. His voice, eye contact, movements and gestures are all rooted in an effortless confidence. And he is absolutely fearless in the field. Stephen’s got some of the tightest game I’ve ever seen; I’m talking rockstar shit. I’ve been out with him and personally witnessed some of his escapades with women right there in the club that are so salacious I couldn’t believe the bouncer wasn’t tossing them out. Also, he is a born instructor. I was fortunate enough to have him mentor me and I would learn more from him in one conversation than I would from 3 hours of reading. He has a way of breaking things down so concisely and clearly that you instantly feed off his energy. He is, without a doubt, one of the most motivating teachers I’ve ever met.
During my time as a social artist, I met many if not all of the big names in the industry and The Game. Few of them lived up to the hype. Stephen is one of the guys that actually transcended all expectation. His game is unique, effective, and honest. While most guys can teach OR pick up; he does BOTH better than anyone I have ever seen up close. Forged from teaching firearms, he takes those skills and applies them into hardcore pick up drills that push you to places you never thought you could go. When I was a student in a Stylelife LA bootcamp, he taught me to believe in myself and that I was much better than I thought. Since then I’ve gone onto excel not just with women, but in all areas of my life. Soon I was chosen to join on as a Stylelife Coach and pay it forward to all men looking to improve their lives. Much of my success is a pure product of Stephen taking me under his wing and showing me a lifestyle of abundance and endless options.
– Topher ( Coach )
Stephen, without a doubt, is the one who shaped my change the most. I went from barely being able to talk to a girl to having threesomes and several girls fighting for my attention, in less than a year. I like his style because it’s how I always wanted to be and he really knows how to get you there, having risen from one of the lowest points to being one of the most respected Social Artists. The thing I liked most about his teachings was how much he really cares about his students, I got to see the “behind the scenes” and I was absolutely amazed at how much time and effort Stephen devoted to his students.
Before meeting Stephen I was in a 2 year drought. Two days after meeting him had a model texting me inviting me to a pool party at her house. The next day I hooked up with a stripper that I met while she was working. A couple days after that had a girl out of her pants within 15 minutes of meeting her. I’ve gotten more phone numbers in the six months since meeting him than I did my entire life before, and had much more fulfilling relationships (and friendships) with women than ever before as well. Those are results; all thanks to Stephen’s coaching.
I have hung out with (REMOVED NAME) and some other self-acclaimed PUA’s before and I never got it. They were just average dudes who WAY over exaggerated the quality of women they went after. I generally just got bad vibes from them. But I thought about our conversation and then about The Game and some of the most important tactics and it came to me that you nailed it all. And you didn’t even need a chick to prove it. I hadn’t ever felt moved by it before. I want that power.
Stephen, I’ve had dozen of teachers, you’re one of the few who has made a crucial difference in my life. You taught me how to appreciate people, and your devotion to my learning inspired me to become a better teacher.
Ph.D university teacher
I learned more from you in 4 phone calls than I did with (name removed – a very popular “Dating Coach” ) over 6 months. Most importantly, the indirect openers I learned from him never showed the approach anxiety I had until you insisted on me doing direct openers.
I just got home this morning at 2:30am. I got laid. I will tell you it lasted for hours and she said she had four orgasms. I wanted to say thank you because it would never have happened without your help.
His precise, to the point, honest feedback are some of the things that distinguish him from most of the other coaches I’ve met. Confidence, Grace, Calibration, Alpha-Guy-befriending, Closing (k-closing and #-closing in matter of mins), how to be a leader of men – are only few of the many things I have learned from him. Being an immigrant from India, when I met him, I was full of limiting beliefs, and almost negative game. Now I am with a great girl, in an amazing relationship, and great social circle. I’ve learned more from one evening with Stephen than I’ve learned from 3-day boot-camps with (name removed other pick up companies)
Stephen’s input on my social artist journey has been amazing! Every piece of advice or comment given to me or to any other student was filled with insight, knowledge, and a positive attitude. Reading one of his posts was like a virtual PUSH to go out there and make that change in your life.. when in doubt I think, What Would Bravo Do… Thanks again!!
Still going strong with the girlfriend.. Thanks to you I broke through the “lets just be friends” barrier that I had all my life. Now I am enjoying a healthy and great relationship! What I learned from you is that in order to be successful with women you have to be a MAN! That is what it is, nothing else, no routines, no gimmicks, no bullshit, simply BE A MAN! and of course ask from time to time WWBD.. ha!
When I think of the Alpha-Male, I see your image.
Stephen took me under his wing immediately and taught me things that raised my game entire levels each time. I can’t even begin to talk about the subtleties of women, AMOGS, and social dynamics that he has mastered and continued to build upon…many of which he discovered on his own and added to the “gurus”he studied. When I met Stephen, I was at a point where I was outwardly successful with health and wealth. But I was literally deteriorating inside: angry at the world, angry at women, and most importantly angry at myself because of my utter confusion and failings with the opposite sex…for 31 friggin’ years. Only a short time after learning from him, I now have three…lets say “good female friends”…in Phoenix and one in San Francisco for when I travel. If anyone wants to learn internal self-confidence and outward success with women, I have met a LOT of people in the community…and none are more real and truly successful with teaching the game, than him. Thanks for the life lessons Stephen, and I look forward to working with you in the future.
After meeting and going out with Stephen for the first time, I realized not only was this lifestyle real, it was something I was not going to give up on…He exudes his strong inner game which translates into his awesome outer game. The cool thing is that it is very LEARNABLE with him. He has personally taught me more about inner/outer game then anyone else.
– Double J
I really believe that STEPHEN was placed on this earth to teach, to motivate, and to show guys the way to success!
– Dave G.