After having a falling out with my film partner, I realize a trend in my thinking.
This is bad and I've been speaking with my therapist about this, but I want you guys feedback on it as well.
I realize I have a horrible habit of assuming the worst in people, If you've read some of my field reports the common thread is that I usually give up easy or assume the girl doesn't like me. I've realized I've allowed some negative experiences I've had with people in general to affect how I interact with others. I want this change starting this month.
The question I have for you guys is what are the steps I take to overcome negative thinking?
Thank you.
Overcoming Negative Thinking
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Mr. Pink
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Re: Overcoming Negative Thinking
You need to stop taking things personally. Assume that there is a positive intention behind every behavior.
If you assume the girl doesn't like you then you have have already lost. It seems to me that you need to retrain your thoughts, and consciously focus on the positives of each situation/interaction.
If you change your focus you will have more successful interactions. For example.. stop focusing on why a girl wouldn't be interested in you and focus on what would make a girl like you. Maybe come up with a list of things that you admire most about yourself, and read it to yourself everything morning. If you search on the forum for an affirmations post you'll find some great examples to get you started.
- Mr. Pink
If you assume the girl doesn't like you then you have have already lost. It seems to me that you need to retrain your thoughts, and consciously focus on the positives of each situation/interaction.
If you change your focus you will have more successful interactions. For example.. stop focusing on why a girl wouldn't be interested in you and focus on what would make a girl like you. Maybe come up with a list of things that you admire most about yourself, and read it to yourself everything morning. If you search on the forum for an affirmations post you'll find some great examples to get you started.
- Mr. Pink
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Spacedust
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Re: Overcoming Negative Thinking
You need to start thinking you are awesome, people love spending time with you, and girls love your approach, etc...
If you dont believe in yourself and if you dont believe what you are doing other people especially girls will sense this, women dont want to be around someone who is not happy.
This may sound hard when you first thinking about this, but in time you will start to believe in this.
"fake it till you become it"
Watch this video! Take notes!!!!!!!!
http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your ... u_are.html
Look at this thread, make your own list!!!
http://bravopua.com/phpbb/viewtopic.php?f=18&t=8617
If you dont believe in yourself and if you dont believe what you are doing other people especially girls will sense this, women dont want to be around someone who is not happy.
This may sound hard when you first thinking about this, but in time you will start to believe in this.
"fake it till you become it"
Watch this video! Take notes!!!!!!!!
http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your ... u_are.html
Look at this thread, make your own list!!!
http://bravopua.com/phpbb/viewtopic.php?f=18&t=8617