Went to Court for my Son Today

[kyle blaze]

I didn't see an off-topic thread anymore so I guess it's kind of similar.

Today I went to court for my 2 year old son, I arrived early so if my lawyer was there we could talk. I take the elevator to the 5th floor of the court house and my sons mother and her mother are just sitting there. It got pretty awkward since our break up in December. I walked behind them and my ex moves to a different seat, I'm like what a fucking drama queen. Obviously I'm not going to sit near you.

My lawyer shows up and so does hers, they talk and her lawyer fucked up so it got pushed to a later date. So it looks like I won't see my son till next year. I have a criminal trial which I'm pleading not guilty too so we will see how that goes.

I haven't cried at all since the break up but today I just got so fucking sick and tired of waiting to see my son. Both of them are in my dreams most nights, it's mostly her and I getting back together and she is going to bring me to my son and right when I'm about to see him I wake up.

My studies are going to shit, I feel like shit, I try and meet new women but I'm so fucked up that either they meet me once and never speak to me again or they fuck me once and just leave me.

Im having a difficult time just improving my life. I know what I have to do but fuck I'm just fucking annoyed and depressed.

I just had to tell someone or write it down.

[DJNinja]

Thanks for sharing. It's a difficult time right now, but you'll get through it. Reframe it this way: instead of letting this hold you back and make you depressed, use this experience to motivate you to make your life so AMAZINGLY AWESOME KICK ASS that when you do get your son back, you're in a good place and an inspiration to him.

Focus on building an awesome, inspired life - not just pickup, but all areas like career, studies, business, social life, etc. - and everything will fall into place. Remember:

YOU ARE AWESOME

[Index]

Check out the facebook group called friends of protection for men. There are a lot of guys on there in the same situation or already been through it. Good support group.

[kyle blaze]

I joined the group, Im probably still going to have to do jail time and I wont be able to see my son for a long time

[Ice]

Sorry to hear Kyle


Cannot imagine what you must be going through right now


Without going into details you don't feel comfortable sharing - just so us guys can learn from this


What would you differently, and what learnings do you take away from all this?

[kyle blaze]

3 Years ago I was working at a drug store and I noticed this girl with a really big ass and I wanted to talk to her. She worked in the photolab so I when I noticed she was on break I took my break too. I ended up talking to her and she invited me to her halloween party. I asked her out on a date to see a movie with me and things went well. I couple of days later she invites me over to her place and we fuck. I knocked her up the first time we fucked. Anyways I continue seeing her and I fell in love with her (she was the first girl I actually liked a lot and I never felt like this before).

A month went by and she broke up with me and told me she was pregnant, as a joke I said who's the father she said I don't know.... turns out from what she told me at the time was one other guy. I was crushed and out of no where I developed anxiety attacks and I had to see a psychiatrist. I got over it, I had a lot of problems at home so I moved out and one day while at my new place she messaged me saying I need you to do a paternity test. I do the test and I found out he is only 3 months old so she had him for awhile. I do the test and the results came back with just a case number and not my name and she said it was mine. Months of me working 12 hour shifts at a printing press I leave work to see my son and one day she said I couldnt because another guy she was seeing was there. This started a lot of fights because she was letting this guy take my son out on his own when I wasn't allowed to even be alone with him.

After a big fight she asks me to do family portraits for christmas and after that she invited me back to her place for drinks and we fuck. On new years we start to date and this was the worst decision of my life. Right away she was sneaking guys over while Iwas at work, gave one of my old friends a hand job while sitting right beside me. I wanted to kick the fucking shit out of the guy she was bringing over and turns out tat she was fucking more then just 2 guys when I first met her. He told me he was being snuck over while I was at work. I confronted her and she got mad at me for talking to him and wanted me to beat him up. There is a big list of shit she done to me, it was such a toxic relationship. I became an angry person and I stopped being productive I was joining the army and she said if I joined she would cheat on me.

I stayed with her for an entire year and near christmas of last year I proposed and she said no. At the end of December we got into this argument because I fucked her in the ass and didnt get her off so she had a tantrum and started throwing shit around the apartment and slamming doors. Next day I was tired of her having tantrums, hitting me (she sent me to jail because she was hitting me and I smacked her, I did get away with it because it wasn't my fault) cheating on me. I left her apartment and took my shit. I started to miss her so I went back to her place at 11:30pm and I had a few drinks.

We started to argue and she wanted the apartment keys I said no that I wanted to talk to her. She started to punch me and she managed to get my keys and threw them into the hall smashing my door opener. I called her a fat bitch and she ran up behind me while I was in the hall and she began to punch me. I pushed her away and she kept coming. Kept attacking me and I grabbed her and she kneed me in the crotch and my reach was to hit her, I hit her pretty hard in the face with my palm and she fell and tried to keep coming after me and at this point I was so angry I said her breath smelt like cum and a slapped her.

I felt awful and I tried to help her but she kept hitting me and for some reason I told her I wanted to kill her (I didn't want to, I was just so fucking fed up wit this, I just wanted to leave her place without any problems.) She booted me into the chest and I went flying into the closet doors.

I left the apartment and called the police, while I was waiting for the police her sister and her boyfriend came and threatened me. Cops show up and I gave them my story and she did the same. I ended up going to the holding cell for 12 hours, I get out and I go on her facebook and xbox account and I found pout she is already seeing another guy, she starts to date this guy too.

I message her ex (the guy who told me that she was sneaking him over) and said some friend you have he is now seeing my our ex. He then told me she was seeing him behind my back and doing coke with him.

So tomorrow is the big fucking day and I will find out what will happen to me, jail is just going to make me a worse person and if they wanted me to go to jail they should have issued that earlier this year.

I use condoms all the time now

[Ice]

Damn Kyle. That is fucked up


So tomorrow, will you be asked to speak? If so will they ask you what you've learned and what will you say?

[kyle blaze]

They gave me an offer, plead guilty and show the courts that I have changed and will continue to change and if I do amazingly well they will drop every single thing

[Ice]

That's not bad news I guess...


what about seeing your son?


I'm not here to give legal advice but I'm just wondering why is she having custody over him when she's clearly the one who's crazy - as you say... Have you made a case for that? Just curious.

[kyle blaze]

No, the court wants me to do a bunch of things and thats it and if I complete them, then I can see my son sooner and not go to jail.