Ice and DJ Coaching thread - Thursday Sept 26 - DONE

[Ice]

DJ and I are back tomorrow night for a coaching session - looking forward to kicking it with you guys.


Remember these questions can be:

1. Pickup/Game related

OR

2. Questions you have about developing yourself as a man

3. Questions you have been having about something in your life, maybe you don't know what to make of it, want a second opinion from guys that will give it to you straight

4. You've been in a downward spiral and don't know how to get out of it

5. Anything else you've been working on that you want our take on how to get you to the next level

[DJNinja]

Looking forward to it!

[Ice]

Bump

Live in 2!

[Ice]

And we're live

[RocKoNoVA]

what up Ice and DJ, I was on a D2 recently and luckily it didn't have to come down to this cause she ended up paying for herself. But what is a good way to split the bill without looking like a cheap asshole?

Just be direct about it? or wha wha?

[DJNinja]

what up Ice and DJ, I was on a D2 recently and luckily it didn't have to come down to this cause she ended up paying for herself. But what is a good way to split the bill without looking like a cheap asshole?

Just be direct about it? or wha wha?

Great question!

Set the frame early, be upfront about it at the beginning, even flip the script on her: "Just so you know, I'm not expecting you to pay for dinner, so let's meet halfway. Cool?"

Or better yet, start your date stack at a place with VERY minimal investment. After all, you're getting to know her, not buying her dinner (since she hasn't earned it yet). I start my dates at an ice cream parlour. The most I spend is $10, and even if I have to pay for the whole thing (and usually I do), it's not a big investment. If she turns out to be a bitch, you can end the date there and be out only a few dollars.

If she's cool and you bounce her to the next location (I usually take them to a bar where I have social proof at), you can have her buy the first round of drinks (compliance test - if she buys it for you, she's into you).

[RocKoNoVA]

"Just so you know, I'm not expecting you to pay for dinner, so let's meet halfway. Cool?"

haha I like that !

I've been trying to do Starbucks, Potbellies, somewhere cheaper. The last D2 was at a mall where she ended up gettin some Dairy Queen Ice cream. Lots of kino, but wouldn't kiss close, 3 times !

[DJNinja]

"Just so you know, I'm not expecting you to pay for dinner, so let's meet halfway. Cool?"

haha I like that !

I've been trying to do Starbucks, Potbellies, somewhere cheaper. The last D2 was at a mall where she ended up gettin some Dairy Queen Ice cream. Lots of kino, but wouldn't kiss close, 3 times !

Good call with Dairy Queen! I'm assuming that the date was going well, where did you and she bounce to next?

And the Kiss is a comfort move, she'll only kiss you if you've built up enough comfort. Have your second bounce location be a place where you can isolate her in private and build even more comfort and an emotional connection...then go for the kiss.

Remember...just because she says "No" to the kiss doesn't mean it's an absolute no...it means "Not yet, you haven't made me comfortable yet." So make her feel comfortable with you!

[Ice]

what up Ice and DJ, I was on a D2 recently and luckily it didn't have to come down to this cause she ended up paying for herself. But what is a good way to split the bill without looking like a cheap asshole?

Just be direct about it? or wha wha?

I like what DJ said

You can also make a bet about who's paying - loser pays, and winner gives massage

Or if somehow you get stuck with the bill, can say I got this one, you can get the next one

[Ice]

And, I put more focus on the interaction and how date is going v. whether i will be paying or not

If she's cool, I don't mind buying a drink then leading to my place to fuck

I know some that will never, I know some that always do

I go with the moment