DJ and Ice: Coaching thread Thursday Nov 14 - DONE

[Ice]

Add to that, I just bought my first coaching call with Bravo soon.

This is ALWAYS a good decision.

[romanianmmaguy]

You guys were right, i Amog when i dont feel confident enough and sometimes i end up acting weird and doing impulsive things to stand out.

I'm not sure so just checking - are you answering my question here? This is why we ask everyone to quote our replies so we are clear

Yes

[romanianmmaguy]

I'm gonna call now in advance a girl, feeling AA, but guess i have to just have to conquer it and take the advice in my sig

Update:no response dammit got worked up again for no reason

No... you didn't get worked up for no reason


There's a reason you're getting worked up when she didn't respond.


What is it?

I got worked up before and while listening to the ringer just for no pick up. After i don't really care and i am mentally ready to next em and get more

[Ice]

You guys were right, i Amog when i dont feel confident enough and sometimes i end up acting weird and doing impulsive things to stand out.

I'm not sure so just checking - are you answering my question here? This is why we ask everyone to quote our replies so we are clear

Yes

So inviting you to go deeper - IF this is something you want our help on


What weird acts are you doing


What impulsive things are you doing


When are you doing them


What are the reasons you are doing them?

[Guilty Pleasure]

Sup fellas!?!

K.C.

[Ice]

I'm gonna call now in advance a girl, feeling AA, but guess i have to just have to conquer it and take the advice in my sig

Update:no response dammit got worked up again for no reason

No... you didn't get worked up for no reason


There's a reason you're getting worked up when she didn't respond.


What is it?

I got worked up before and while listening to the ringer just for no pick up. After i don't really care and i am mentally ready to next em and get more

Slow down man

let's break this down


What if she was in the shower, in a meeting, in class, her phone was on silent, she was at the gym, driving, etc?


How come you are so quick to next them just because she didn't pick up your phone?

[Ice]

Sup fellas!?!

K.C.

GP - tell me that's not you in your younger days - in your pic?? sexy.

[romanianmmaguy]

You guys were right, i Amog when i dont feel confident enough and sometimes i end up acting weird and doing impulsive things to stand out.

I'm not sure so just checking - are you answering my question here? This is why we ask everyone to quote our replies so we are clear

Yes

So inviting you to go deeper - IF this is something you want our help on


What weird acts are you doing
I say weird crap when my mental state is not up (actually scratch that i just realized that it was not as bad as i thought it out to be. Some guys were talking and one more joins and i shake his hand and say "how do you do?"al

What impulsive things are you doing
Once iwas in a group with a guy iknew a girl and another guy and i randomly kick a sign to show my insane mma skills prompting A "do you have problems?" From the girl

When are you doing them
When my confidence is down, when it's up i smile and am social

What are the reasons you are doing them?

I honestly don't know. Maybe as an escape?

[Methos]

Methos, good to see you on here - reminds me of back when we were in FC (PRE-PX DAYS). haha

You've come quite far since PX. Even after PX you said you were only wanting a relationship...


So before I go into how to reframe it to seeing other girls - what is it you really want? What is causing you to feel guilty - is it her? Or is it you?

Where are you guys with DTR talk, and how often have you seen HB nurse? Are you saying you two are not gf/bf and doing gf/bf stuff? If so STOP!!!!

IF you are doing gf/bf stuff and telling her she's not your gf.... you are in denial and you ARE in a relationship. This is what your ACTION shows, and ACTION is always greater than words.


I'll wait to hear your response before going further about your original question.


And, how many girls have you banged since PX?

I still want that relationship with the RIGHT girl man... but lately I've had a harsh reality check that because I want it so bad I am moving too fast into relationships with girls and getting burned. Hbnurse has flaked on me in the worst possible way so I'm done with her.

Right now, I feel stronger than ever about the commitment I made to myself back in July to stay single for at least a year. This experience has been an adrenalin shot in a way... reminding me that even though I want a relationship with the right girl one day... I'm not ready. My frame is not strong enough to handle it and I need more work on myself first. So, yea, right now I want to do a 180 and completely go down a different road with all the next girls to come. That means I don't want to do any BF behavior and fall into this same trap I keep repeating.

I am one feeling guilty and it has nothing to do with her. Think I covered explaining that in my reply to DJ above.

I was doing BF stuff but never talked to her and nor told her she is not my GF or anything. We didn't talk relationship stuff at all. But yea, agree 100% actions defined the relationship without the need for words. Ironically, I don't think she saw it that way (as in considering us in a relationship) given how she dropped me so suddenly. But it's all good far as she is concerned. My heart is cold as fucking Ice right now and no one can hurt me that easily.

Ok so you're done with that girl - right? Make the decision not to go back.

You're single now and when you meet girls, it's just fucking and casual... it's the DTR talk we talked about in PX... do you remember that?

I don't recall specifically... :/

[Guilty Pleasure]

ThAts me in my hick days.. Dating my cousin but we broke up.. we're still cousins ..

K.C.