Schedule, goals and my effort!

[Ice]

1. At least you recognize that - it's a starting point.

2. This is why I made a post about going to a store and asking about their products. I esp. like the outdoor one because I love that stuff and get fired up learning more about things. So that already puts me in a better mood.

3. Find things that re-energize you and happy - and keep doing it continually.

What things right now do this for you?

[tornapathy]

Right now, reading, writing, I'm thinking of getting into painting miniatures. But, I have to prioritize. I know it's worth it to get this stuff figured out and on track, but my confidence is lacking and I feel anti-social at best

[Ice]

Sometimes reflection is what we need

Sometimes interacting with positive people is what we need


I am 51 introverted, and 49 extroverted in MBTI


So I prefer a balance of both

Introverts need reflection, reading, alone time to recharge

Whereas extroverts tend to need conversation and being around people to recharge


When one only remains in introversion for long periods - can lead to anti-social tendencies, withdrawal, sadness, depression

And that's what I'm concerned about with you


Which is the reason I'm asking you to recharge your energy, and keep being in a constant of positivity by doing positive things that make you feel good, and being in a healthy positive state

That is a choice that you make

[tornapathy]

That is true, I want to be that way positive, healthy, happy. I mean, I go out and talk with people and do social things, but I feel like I am not being successful at it. Like people are going to find out I am a fake.

The weird things we care about haha.

[Ice]

What are you not being successful at, specifically?

[tornapathy]

Communication, expressing who I am.

I have been dwelling on this quote " how can people assist you with your goals if they don't know what you are truly about"

My lack of confidence with women! Beautiful women I should add... God, I'm 29 years old and I feel like a child still.

I'm not being successful with my goals, even though I am working my ass off to get there.

[Ice]

So first step is naming it


What does communicating, expressing yourself successfully look like?

What does it feel like?


How will you know when you are successfully expressing yourself?


Confidence is something you work at. When you learn something new that gets you out of your realm of comfort (like MMA), do you have similar feeling like talking to girls?


It's because you're learning something new that gets you feeling that way. And all you gotta do is start getting better at it and you will develop that confidence

Work smarter, not harder

Just like MMA - least amount of energy with maximum efficiency

Be more specific on what goals you're not being successful at - can't help you if you don't name it

[tornapathy]

I just struggle with approaching and if I do I always feel like I make an ass out of myself or they aren't interested. I just don't feel confident in speaking with beautiful women.


The goals I am not succeeding at sell 12-15 cars grossing 300 to 400 a car. I have barely sold 3.5 units making 150$ a unit with it being half way through the month I need 6 to 7.5 to hit my goal.

Playing guitar, I haven't purchased one funds are tight.
Dancing is going decent.
French no forward progression
Approaching, no forward progression
Saving money no forward progression.

[tornapathy]

Riki Ratchman came in to my job today that was pretty cool. Got a picture. So besides not selling a car good things can happen!

[Ice]

1. You haven't answered my questions that I asked in my last post.

2. I told you to make your goals SMART. Would selling 12-15 cars a month be realistic? Don't set yourself up for failure by making unattainable unrealistic goals. You'll feel shitty for failing and can stop you from wanting to achieve.

Also - you need to understand that there will be things out of your control. Sometimes months can be higher than said goal, and lower. Don't set yourself up for failure by making a goal that has a lot to do with an external environment.


I've sat down several times writing a post to you and didn't because of the negative view you have. Quit living in a pitiful state. Start making your life and thoughts to a positive.



From now on - Instead of me having to frame your situation in something more constructive - you can do that. You've got the tools, you've got the know-how. If you haven't taken the time to frame something constructively - then less likely I will take time to.

No more poor me bullshit.

Reframe to a fucking positive and be constructive about your actions.