Is giving up a viable option

[tornapathy]

Tonight, I had an eye awaking moment. I almost got into a fight, had my life threatened and really felt like jail might not be so bad.

With that being said, I also see the errors that caused me to reach this place, plus the difficulties that I have yet to overcome.I just feel like giving up, is a better option.

I go out but yet, I don't approach. I keep making errors in judgement calls. I keep visiting the same places over again expecting different results, insanity.

Long story short, the person who threatened me demanded that I give them a ride home, I said I don't have to do anything but if you ask me politely I will give you one. With this he lost his temper and started freaking out. A good guy, interjected pulled him outside and tried to calm him down. Thought he had down so and next thing he is standing before me threatening my life. At this point in my mind it flashed that if I ripped his head off would I go to jail for murder or if it would be consider self defense? Better not risk it, I make the decision not to make matters worse. The other guy saw this and physically dragged him outside before it got out of hand.

Also a few other patrons of the bar saw this and where going to do something as well when, they saw me not trying to escalate and him threatening my life.

So after a while I just waited, he came in and apologized but still came off like it was my fault, when I just shrugged my shoulders and left.

My problem is that he frequents the places I eat and hang out at sometimes. Now, I have to find new establishments not like it would matter because I feel I have not really gain anything from these places anyway.

One of the waitress who knew me said I was really nice and sweet... Haha, but my brain says fuck it. My confidence has been shot all week and this is just another blow to my ego.

I feel I did the right thing but deep down inside, I just wanted to end this guy. Decision, we constantly live with them.

[DJNinja]

I personally think that you took the higher road by not escalating things even though you probably could have defended yourself and taken him out if he pushed hard enough. But glad that you were smart and just let it go. It doesn't come across as a sign of weakness, but of strength: it takes a very strong, courageous man to know the difference between fighting for a noble cause or just letting a petty thing go. And that's really what it is: he's just a petty troublemaker who wanted to pick a fight with you, but you were wise enough to know that he isn't worth your time and effort.

Use this opportunity to get out of your comfort zone and explore new places! You might find a new spot that's much more fun and has hotter chicks than the ones that you've been hanging out at

[tornapathy]

True, thanks ninja. I will take your advice