No Fap 2015

[Ice]

Not a good idea to mix work and personal stuff.

You've got to get rid of all the negative, non-productive, and draining things in your life.

Sounds like she's game playing. Consider cutting her out

Perhaps you can be friends one day but not now. You've got to grow by yourself - and without her for now.

[tornapathy]

I don't work at that company anymore I left. But I understand what you are saying. Also I feel the same way. She doesn't see my improvements just the past. I told her we should think about what we truly want and we can get back n touch.

[Ice]

Good idea


In the mean time, what is your plan to be more socially active and open to meet people?

[tornapathy]

I have been going out two to three times a week, between my local board games to the bars and hanging out with friends. Next week I am so busy I have dance lessons,plus I am going to a football game. I am also going to a local dance event on Friday that I was invited to by a married couple that I sold a car to that also do speed dating. Plus I have a work event with the community I will be attending... So much socializing

[Ice]

Cool. Already ahead of most.

# closing?

Inviting them to cool spots for dates?

[tornapathy]

That is where I am lacking because my transportation issue i am riding a moped for the time. So I tend to only go to local places so I haven't found any ideal cool spots for dates

[Ice]

lame. takes few minutes to find a spot online to go check out

and if you've lived there awhile, should already know.

Pick a coffee shop/restaurant/bar type place close to where you live

re: transportation

can either have them meet you there

or tell them you'll pick them up in your badass moped

tell them they seem cool, should go coffee/drink sometime.

# close/date close

[Ice]

And can even invite someone you meet to the football game/dance event you are going to

[tornapathy]

I can do all those things, I had a limiting belief moment, fuck that. I will own this!

[tornapathy]

Day 5 yesterday completed with the help of a fwb. It was a beautiful time, I was went out for a little bit but for some reason my energy levels were off after my little romp. I have to figure out how to stay energy driven even if i have sex.