Vision Building Coaching Live Thread w/ DJ and Ice - DONE

[Metz]

Not editing the original post, just to keep it around. The updated version, post chat.

< one year:

My room is inviting and comforting. It displays cleanliness, creativity, and my passions. It is very warm and inviting to anyone. It shows past, present, and future accomplishments.

Having never turned back, I have a new girlfriend that has promising ambitions, who can handle herself in public and is adventurous with me. She is taller and is attractive in every way, because I wouldn't settle for less. She also hasn't settled for less, and thus, I have retained my athletic form but improved it, not becoming bulky, but very fit. My clothes have continued to keep up to date and remain stylish. I am comfortable about the way I look.

-The future vision-

I work for the Department of State - U.S., helping stranding Americans in various countries. When they have no one to turn to, I reach out and get them back on solid ground. My career brings a large sense of accomplishment to myself. I'm happy leaving the cookie-cutter lifestyle of a corporate office job behind. I've lived in various countries, have friends and activities to do in all of them. My stories dwarf others. My American home has been customized and designed by myself.

I would only pursue women I'm completely satisfied with on every level. I find it completely reasonable that international girlfriends is now do-able with the funds and ability to leave at a moments notice.
Find great company in whatever country I should happen to be working in.

[Monteray]

Very good start on your vision Monte.

Will invite you to see if you can make your vision more clear, concise, and compelling. You've got the details, now what is most important to you that INSPIRES you

Be specific (what part of town do you want to live in) - pick the one you want most.

Could say "I surround myself with successful like-minded people with strong/good values."

Your vision is for by the end of 2014. So, by then you will apply the skills you have learned in phone counseling to help you in your career and volunteer work. You also could reframe this by digging deeper in what is it you hope you gain from counseling course - "truly listening to people, harmonizing the environment, etc"


Where is it that you REALLY want to work. What's the image - that movie picture snapshot you see yourself working in

So you can say, you want to surround yourself amongst beautiful women.

The rest looks fine - try to make them more clear and concise - can repost later and I will take a look (pm me to when you've done)

Here is version 2.0

I haven’t gone specifically into detail about money earning because that doesn’t really matter to me at this time. This is also all stuff I am working towards right now, but I haven’t really put this kind of detailed picture onto any of it before. So thanks again for the advice it is greatly appreciated.

I wanted to keep it achievable, not that I don’t want to not strive to be better, but I want to keep myself grounded to now and what I have to do to get there now, I want to be able to enjoy the getting there if not more than when I arrive, If that makes sense? I think the biggest thing for me is not whether I make this reality or not it’s that i try my hardest to make it happen and enjoy the process…

It is New Year ’s Eve 2014 tomorrow, I am at my new place in Neutral bay talking with my female flatmate about her plans for NYE. She is deciding on where she should go and with who. I plan on taking my favourite girl out with me tonight for dinner she is just shorter than me, black hair, and great body. She is the type of girl that swears as much as me, has the most vivid sexual imagination, is happy to talk about anything, plus she is comfortable in her own skin and has a good plan for her future.

My flatmates are awesome, and the people I have brought into my life recently have helped me move to the next level. I have no problem finding these people and bringing them into my world with the skills I have been learning for the last 18 months. My biggest problem right now is working out which girls are worthy of my time…

Most importantly is that I am now bringing value to my personal relationships and not just taking. I have also made an effort to get down to see my family and in particular my sisters who are both almost 18. This is the time they need their older brother to be there for them…

In a few months I fly out to the US, I’m going to vegas, new york, and Miami. I’m super excited to go to some places I have seen so much but never experienced. I’ve already been to Japan and Vietnam this year. Europe is next (Ibiza)

Last week I had my final level 2 Spanish class and I am beginning to be able to put together sentences and people can actually understand me now. I have already booked the level 3 class and going to start and finish it before uni starts in March...

My Uni degree is going great I have completed about one third of my double degree, my grade average is up to a D and I’m aiming to hit HD average at the end. If I keep up this pace three units per semester I will finish in three more years…

Just got a new UV ink tattoo on my arm and some dermals to go with it, also added some great pieces to my wardrobe over the last year, a nice blazer, two leatherjackets, some really nice shirts, and quality denim jeans. I also bought two new suits one for weekend use at bars clubs, and one for the races. It has been getting used, I have attended over 6 meetings this year, this is my passion horse racing, and my horse has been doing well in Queensland winning some races which makes me happy.

I’m currently working in a nightclub cocktail bar, making awesome drinks for people. I work weekends but I don’t mind at the moment because I can use my time more effectively during the week and I need to spend time when everyone else is at work studying to keep my grades where I would like them.

It also gives me the chance to get a steady program going in the gym and I am back up to 95kgs (200 pounds) and I am very happy with my amount of body fat, not too low so I look like a dried fruit, but not enough to make me look chubby. My diet has improved, I have been a non-smoker for 18 months now, and I drink maybe once a fortnight but not too heavily.

I just finished my phone counselling course, and will be doing one volunteer shift per fortnight with a call centre for counselling. I really look forward to helping people, people that need someone to talk to in their time of darkness.

[Ice]

For guys who missed this, but still want to join in, feel free to post your vision here and we will work with you on it.


As you build your vision, we will get you to concurrently work on discovering your values (which is next week)

[Ice]

Didn't have time to map this out but these are my current goals/ visions:

1.Pay off $1800 by the end of November
2.Move into an apartment by November (mid November latest)
3.start up BJJ again in 2014 (feel the urge to be able to defend myself and my loved ones) and also for health purposes
4. Enter a new career by the end of the year if not sooner (already have the ball rolling on this)

These are all short term and major to me.


I envision myself living in NY by September 2014. This is always compelling it only because of the lifestyle and culture but because it will be my very first taste of the city and true liberation.

I'm compelled by desperation at This point. I am 25 and am very able to make more than what I make now. And I don't/can't live in my current predicament for long because I know it will drive me insane and it will slowly start to effect my relationship. I set a goal of $50,000 as a starting point.

Other than that my social life is great and as always I'm making new friends and leaving those who don't add value to my life behind.


Also by next year I would once again like to level up in my skills.

K.C.

Hey brother. Not a bad start but I believe you can achieve greater things

Start by imagining a movie picture snapshot of yourself in NY. What is the image you see, what do you look like, what is in the background, what are you doing, and most importantly what does it FEEL like?

Focus on what success looks like to you instead of what it doesn't

Be specific - what career do you want? Will you need education to get there? How many gf's will you have, or are you keeping the same one, and your relationship is better than ever? What car are you driving? What does your living situation look like (ie. 1, 2 bedroom apt in NYC? or Penthouse? etc.)

What is the image you have of you with your friends? Are you guys at the bar, or entertaining them in your penthouse suite, etc? Dream as big as you want, lock it in and see where it takes you.

Feel free to msg me whenever you revise your vision - even if it's after this month. Happy to take a look. Ice

[Ice]

Thanks for taking the time to do this guys.

Career

Currently work wise things are going quite well. Good salary , no weekends , no holidays 4 weeks vacation. Just waiting for another position to open up for a better salary.

--Reframe this to "I will be in x position making x amount a year. Helps to envision yourself in this role and what will you be doing and who will you be helping/benefiting others?"

Wealth

I will continue to build my savings and pay off debt.
I have almost $1000 but am mainly focusing on paying down debt first.
I will have my credit card paid off by the new year (~600 at the moment)
I am going to Hawaii at the end of January , I will have $1500 to spend when I go
I will continue to pay off my line of credit and make sure I don't borrow from it.

--Reframe to By x date, I will have x amount in my savings account and be debt free by x. I will be in the beaches and clubs of Hawaii meeting girls and hanging out with DJ. My LOC will be paid off and I will be debt free.

Next summer I am the best man at my best friends wedding... in Singapore.
When I return from Hawaii all the money I save monthly will be transferred to saving for Singapore and while I'm over there I'm going to visit Thailand.

Health

In three months I will have returned to the gym and continued the workout routine I had previously.
I will have lost about 20-25 pounds by the time I go to Hawaii.
I will have continued to read about one book a week. I average 1-2 a week.

-- What is the image of you that you see? What does your body look like, and what does the background look like? Does it compel you towards sculpting a better body?


Relationships

I will have a clear understanding of what I want in a relationship and qualities I need in a woman , what I am willing to be flexible on and what are dealbreakers.

-- Here is where you need to do work son. In your vision, you will include what YOUR ideal woman and relationship looks like. Be as specific and ideal as you'd like - it's YOUR VISION!!!

Other

I really enjoy travelling. I am doing Hawaii in January and Asia next summer.
I have a list of where I want to travel and what I want to do.

I have even mapped out the next few years.

I need to write out a specific timeframe.

I know 2 years from now I want to go to Ireland for 2 weeks. When I return from Asia I will begin to save for that.

-more of a task list right now but can be a vision when you have more details.

After that there is a list but I don't have specifics laid out. I know the countries (Brazil , Australia , Japan) but I haven't decided the time of year and specific dollar amounts. I am thinking this may be a little too far to focus on at the moment.

Also after one year of service my place of employment will pay for certain courses so after October I am eligable and in January they usually offer French courses so I will sign up for that when it becomes available.

K so see above for my comments. Lots of work to do but keep at it and it'll get better man.

[Ice]

I originally thought my post had gone through earlier, but seems it didn't

Anywho:

Everytime I have this conversation with myself(what do I vision myself doing in the future) only one thing keeps popping up. Baseball. I used to play it, I love it and miss playing it. Honestly it's the only thing I actually see myself doing, despite everything else I thought previously(wanted to do forensics, then psych, then com sci, then be a cop). I'm now a business major because it's the another thing I find natural for me(after switching majors 4 freaking times). Maybe in some capacity I can combine the both for a career, but I digress from that momentarily.

This is where building your vision and locking in will help. Everything you are doing now will help build your perspective and background in the future. Be CLEAR with your VISION. If it is to play baseball, then say you will be playing baseball - and in what capacity. Is it for career, rec league, coaching, what position? How will you build yourself up to get there?

As of now I have 3 semesters(not including this one) of college left. This means I have about 9 months to prepare myself for a walk-on tryout for my school's baseball team. Should I not make the team, I really don't know what I'm going to do with my life. Probably work for some fortune 500 company, make some money, but it's def not going to be something that I LOVE doing.

You can say you will be playing for the school's baseball team, AND continue to build towards working for x fortune 500 company, make x dollars/yr. This is your vision, so YOU define what you want from it BEFORE you lock it in. Be absolute about your vision.

Here's a list of goals I plan to accomplish:
-Play baseball for college(I plan on cutting down to 155, then start a bulk phase to 170)
-Start and fully maintain a healthy diet(also counting macros)
-Learn how to dance contemporary and tango
-Take some form of MMA/Self-defense classes
-Get a car(this would save me about 20 hours a week from traveling by bus/train, literally)
-Finish reading every book I've started and haven't finished yet(about 6 books as of now)
-Better time management*
-Travel around the world*
-Bartender's License*
-Pilot's License*

More of a goals list - so see comments in these threads and how can you reframe these towards a movie picture snapshot that will inspire and compel you?

Now in terms of dating:
-As of now, only willing to get into a relationship with a red-headed girl who's cool and meets all of my other criteria(s). Other than that, I'll continue enjoying my single life.

Haha, I like red-heads. What is it's a blonde that dyed her hair red, or a red head that dyed her hair a dif colour? My point is, why specifically red heads? Why not the type of PERSON you want to be with too? What will you two do together? What kind of relationship will it be? What will your relationships FEEL LIKE??

I'm currently trying to think of other goals right now, but will update if I think of one or more.

- good to have goals for our goal setting section. remember this is your vision. goals will come after.

Edit: Second time I posted after the thread ended, seems like I gotta manage my time much better too

[Ice]

Hey everyone,

Just wanted to say - When you are happy and absolute with your vision, write it unto a piece of paper, put it in an envelope and file it away. When you do this you are locking in your vision. Next time you see this piece of paper - months, years away, post back what results you find.

[Noa]

This is where building your vision and locking in will help. Everything you are doing now will help build your perspective and background in the future. Be CLEAR with your VISION. If it is to play baseball, then say you will be playing baseball - and in what capacity. Is it for career, rec league, coaching, what position? How will you build yourself up to get there?

You can say you will be playing for the school's baseball team, AND continue to build towards working for x fortune 500 company, make x dollars/yr. This is your vision, so YOU define what you want from it BEFORE you lock it in. Be absolute about your vision.

More of a goals list - so see comments in these threads and how can you reframe these towards a movie picture snapshot that will inspire and compel you?

Haha, I like red-heads. What is it's a blonde that dyed her hair red, or a red head that dyed her hair a dif colour? My point is, why specifically red heads? Why not the type of PERSON you want to be with too? What will you two do together? What kind of relationship will it be? What will your relationships FEEL LIKE??

- good to have goals for our goal setting section. remember this is your vision. goals will come after.

A lot of great points, def. helped me have a clearer vision. On the goals list that I posted, I can def say I'm changing it from: what I want to accomplish, to: what I am currently working towards to. Already started on a few of those that I've listed.

In regards to the dating part, don't get me wrong I wouldn't mind dating other hair-colored girls, I just like red-heads most lol. I do consider the type of person they are, I'm not willing to be with a girl just because she's a red-head, cause if she's not what I want in a relationship, it's not going to happen. In terms of what kind of relationship it will be is hard to say at this point cause right now I'm not looking to be monogamous, but who knows if my mind changes later down the road(or maybe it doesn't).

As to why specifically a red-head; I just love them. As far as I could remember redheads were always my preference lol. It also gives me motivation to approach every hot redhead I see, cause if I don't I'll never achieve that goal.

Anyways, thanks for replying to my vision! Def helped!

[Ice]

Bump - for all the guys that participated in this - Post your updates as to where you are today here:

http://bravopua.com/phpbb/viewtopic.php?f=18&t=8927