Vision Building Coaching Live Thread w/ DJ and Ice - DONE

[Ice]

Just did a short term one for myself.

3 months from now I will have...
-Hired on for a law enforcement job
-In a serious relationship with the girl im dating now
-Credit card debt gone
-In process of paying back parents
-Start looking for another vehicle with good MPG
Or
-Get a full maintenance check on my current vehicle
-Less stress in my life
-Still doin work in the gym and dropping my body fat down lower
-If I haven’t already qualified for strongman nationals 2014 identify the next meet im going to compete in and come up with a solid training program.
-See a doc and figure out whats wrong with my damn knee
-add to my wardrobe

Hey man, while this is a start, it seems like more of a task list then a vision


What DJ said - "I am', "I will be", "I will have"

And be more specific:

So for you, it could be something like "I will serve as an officer of the law in the LAPD. My relationship with my girl(s) is stronger than ever and are very much deeply in love, our sex is amazing. I will be financially free by x. I will have no credit card debt, and fully paid my parents by x. I will be driving a x, with good mpg. My life will be stress-free. (How will you achieve this). My body will be x, through continually going to the gym everyday. I will have a great body with strong knees. I will have a stylish wardrobe (and include the look you want here)"


This is a just a start, but it's a good one - keep going man.

[DJNinja]

A heads up on Facebook reminded me of this, so it wasn't for naught. I saw it. V____PX

Had a huge snap back to reality this morning (couldn't have happened at a better time than live coaching thread day). This is what I got.

1 - 2 months:

I'm still living here, but completing a much needed overhaul/upgrade of the bedroom. (I will make a separate thread of before/after pics). This includes ditching the twin bed for a queen. I have hired the help of an artist to create some unique artwork for the empty space around the walls, all my own design.
It's been one of things I've never invested into due to me switching living areas to often/houses/ or even leaving the country for extended periods of time. While it never bothered me, one girls made this comment after we slept together at my place.
"You know, back in college I never dated freshmen men." Why I asked. "Because I knew they would have single beds. I want a big comfy bed."
So while I just had sex in my single bed (twins are singles), I was still embarrassed. Time to grow up.

My room still continues to be stocked with extra towels and toothbrushes for anyone who spends the night.

3-6 months:

My slap back to reality this morning came from a text from a "10" here in Nebraska. Smoking thin body, blond haired, southern girl here for a PhD internship in Behavioral Psychology. Hoping to make 60K within 2 years. We went on a date Sunday, were both laughing and I taught her tons of stuff about the city that she was new to. Set up something for today. She sent a generic sounding "maybe have allergies or a cold, don't think I'll make it tonight" message. Since I was really looking forward to it and I haven't really been bailed on like that in a looonnng time...I was pissed at myself.
Why?
Been going out with 7s. Went out wit a legit 10 and wasn't all I could be.
The goal? Seeing legit 8-10s continuously and possibly dating one of them. Time to get to it with more attractive sets. I feel like I'm cheating myself by not dating someone above an 8. Just realized this today.

Continue my weight training and running. Bench press about 200lbs. Currently maxing at 150. I weigh 150.

My application process for the U.S Dept. of State should be started. I'm opting for this because I love to travel, or really, have the need to travel abroad.
I have started looking for jobs in Brazil for the World Cup next summer, regardless.
This will make me feel great about myself because I help people in trouble across the world. Nothing is more attractive to myself or others about having a career that pulls people out of trouble. It is, to me, the suit, tie, and getting your hands dirty. The indirect James Bond really.

My current job would become a secondary source of income and a hobby. Custom computer building. Creating works of great machinery and art, really. However, pay is low. Thus, why I slacked in other areas of life. I'm still paying off a credit card and student loans. It's now becoming to look irresponsible and childish. Not attractive.

I'm keeping these fairly short. In summary:
--Upgraded bedroom, larger bed, custom artwork, clean and modern.
--200lbs bench press, running 4-5 miles with ease.
--Started the time consuming U.S. Dept. of State application process.
--8-10s in women. Possibly dating a 9-10. Reduce low quality sets. Stop pursing 7s
--turning current job into a hobby with additional income.

Overall, great job, only a few things to change and/or comment on:

My room still continues to be stocked with extra towels and toothbrushes for anyone who spends the night.

Great idea. Also a good idea to stock extra contact lens cases and contact lens solution if you want the girl to sleep over. Even if you don't use contacts, a lot of girls do, and one thing that you can say to make them feel more comfortable (and more likely to stay for sex): "Hey, don't worry about your contacts, I've got an extra unused contact lens case and solution that an ex left a long time ago, so just stay the night"

The goal? Seeing legit 8-10s continuously and possibly dating one of them.

Forget saying "possibly". 3-6 months from now, you'll still be "possibly" dating 10s and not actually dating them. Change it: "I am seeing legit 8-10s continuously and dating one of them."

My application process for the U.S Dept. of State should be started. I'm opting for this because I love to travel, or really, have the need to travel abroad.

Also liked how you mentioned travel plans. This is a good thing for people to add to their vision: if you plan to travel, where are you going to be traveling to?

[Ice]

Next 3 months I will have:
- A steady Gym schedule
- Lost 20 lbs
- Improved Diet
- Either Started or Enrolled back in BJJ – pay 6 months in advance
- Gotten my house clean. – Throw out all the shit I don’t need, scrub this bitch top to bottom
- Read at least 1 book a month
- Do a bill Analysis and adjust my spending- Cable first to go
- Get out more –
- New rotation of 2-4 HB’s
****Added – do a tune up and maintenance check on Stone’s car. I got you brother!

Hey Bandit - this is not a bad start, but it looks like a task list more than a vision

How you you envision yourself, and what time frame are you looking at?

Suggestions:

What does your body look like, what is fueling your body, what does your house look like, what book do you want to read? Go out more and do what? New rotation of 2-4 HB's - are these in your harem, or just casual fucks?

Take a look at how I wrote stones and if you wish to rewrite, I will be happy to take a look at it tonight with more thoughts

[Ice]

Also wanted to add: LOVE how you guys aren't just focusing on just pickup, but making this an overall life plan addressing almost all aspects of your life. Awesome!

I'm w/ DJ on this. Good work guys.

[Bandit]

Next 3 months I will have:
- A steady Gym schedule
- Lost 20 lbs
- Improved Diet
- Either Started or Enrolled back in BJJ – pay 6 months in advance
- Gotten my house clean. – Throw out all the shit I don’t need, scrub this bitch top to bottom
- Read at least 1 book a month
- Do a bill Analysis and adjust my spending- Cable first to go
- Get out more –
- New rotation of 2-4 HB’s

Great job. Anything to add career-wise?

****Added – do a tune up and maintenance check on Stone’s car. I got you brother!

And THIS is why this is the best pickup/lifestyle redesign forum on the Internet!

Career wise is part of my problem for not getting things done. I've been working 12-15 hour days plus weekend time for a year straight now. Helped get a new program up and running, I'm now running the show with 26 employees under me and FINALLY up to the staffing levels we need. Additionally we are heading into the winter so things will be slowing down a little (Thankfully!)

My career goals are this:

- Reduce the amount of hours My staff and I are working.
- Do so by becoming more efficient and effective.
- Utilize data that we have to identify deficiencies and correct them immediately so I can give specific examples of the problems in real time to my subordinates.
- Set up systems and procedures for next year so that we are not back in our current position of being overworked and over-stressed.
- Weed out the few non-performers and replace them with high quality personnel thus reducing the pressure on my current team and build the strongest team in our market, region, and company. My team will set the Standard.

[DJNinja]

One thing to add, guys: as you write about the kind of girls that you want to be, BE SPECIFIC about them. Saying "I'm dating a 10" doesn't mean anything or help you focus on the girl that you want. Say something like

The girl(s) I'm currently seeing are

• Tall
• brunette
• Wickedly funny sense of humour
• Ok to be teased, and sometimes even tease back!
• Loves sex as much as I do
• Into anal/threesomes/bondage/whatever kink you're into
• Has a great career and not dependent on me or anyone

Etc.

Put whatever qualifications that you look for in a girl now, and over the coming months, refine that list as you go on more dates and find out what you really want in a girl!

[Metz]

Great idea. Also a good idea to stock extra contact lens cases and contact lens solution if you want the girl to sleep over. Even if you don't use contacts, a lot of girls do, and one thing that you can say to make them feel more comfortable (and more likely to stay for sex): "Hey, don't worry about your contacts, I've got an extra unused contact lens case and solution that an ex left a long time ago, so just stay the night"

The goal? Seeing legit 8-10s continuously and possibly dating one of them.

Forget saying "possibly". 3-6 months from now, you'll still be "possibly" dating 10s and not actually dating them. Change it: "I am seeing legit 8-10s continuously and dating one of them."

Understood and 100% correct. People who say "maybe" always say "maybe". Same with "someday".

My application process for the U.S Dept. of State should be started. I'm opting for this because I love to travel, or really, have the need to travel abroad.

Also liked how you mentioned travel plans. This is a good thing for people to add to their vision: if you plan to travel, where are you going to be traveling to?

I am travelling to Brazil for the World Cup in 2014. While I may not be able to afford tickets to the actual games, I'm applying for jobs within the working staff. (As I did for Grand Prix F1 in Australia).
I will have saved up enough money for Thailand / South Korea by next late summer.

[DJNinja]

Great idea. Also a good idea to stock extra contact lens cases and contact lens solution if you want the girl to sleep over. Even if you don't use contacts, a lot of girls do, and one thing that you can say to make them feel more comfortable (and more likely to stay for sex): "Hey, don't worry about your contacts, I've got an extra unused contact lens case and solution that an ex left a long time ago, so just stay the night"

The goal? Seeing legit 8-10s continuously and possibly dating one of them.

Forget saying "possibly". 3-6 months from now, you'll still be "possibly" dating 10s and not actually dating them. Change it: "I am seeing legit 8-10s continuously and dating one of them."

Understood and 100% correct. People who say "maybe" always say "maybe". Same with "someday".

My application process for the U.S Dept. of State should be started. I'm opting for this because I love to travel, or really, have the need to travel abroad.

Also liked how you mentioned travel plans. This is a good thing for people to add to their vision: if you plan to travel, where are you going to be traveling to?

I am travelling to Brazil for the World Cup in 2014. While I may not be able to afford tickets to the actual games, I'm applying for jobs within the working staff. (As I did for Grand Prix F1 in Australia).
I will have saved up enough money for Thailand / South Korea by next late summer.

Hahaha, well done! Looking forward to reading your LRs from Thailand!

[Metz]

I'll go back and edit the original at the end of this, with a fresh, updated list.

In terms of women:

someone who has a future is very important for me, in terms of dating.
She must be willing to road trip and not turn down a weekend in another state.
She would be taller than 5'9.
When we're together in public shes a "New Times Roman" , at home in the bed she's a "Wingding"

[DJNinja]

I'll go back and edit the original at the end of this, with a fresh, updated list.

In terms of women:

someone who has a future is very important for me, in terms of dating.
She must be willing to road trip and not turn down a weekend in another state.
She would be taller than 5'9.
When we're together in public shes a "New Times Roman" , at home in the bed she's a "Wingding"

Awesome! Really like how you mention that she must enjoy traveling, that's something that I need to add to my qualifications for an ideal girl!