DJNinja & Ice: Live Coaching Thread 2.13.14

[DJNinja]

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[S D]

so...

if a girl is conservative but is really nice- like a real christian type girl.

What do you say at the end of the D2 when you know, you have no plans on calling her again.

I cut it off after like an hour.

I ended up saying I would call her next week. Which gives her false hope.

not trying to be dishonest like that.

[S D]

Also I have been trying to move faster with women.

met her on campus.

talked for a bit thought I did pretty well with her.

Im trying to get them out quick

But sometimes this can be misconstrued as clingy.

Been texting this girl since Tuesday. Not a ton of texts but a couple. shes responded pretty quickly

I called her yesterday and she texted me "what?"

I thought this was super lame and didn't respond. but think there is a way I can turn this around and get her back on the phone. I feel like if I were to text her telling her what I wanted it is supplicating.

I texted the today to see what her schedule was for today (cause leave for vegas) but to no response.

was a bit unsure how to go about this.

[Syrrah]

This happened over a year ago, but I realized I still don't know the best way to handle this.

I met a girl at a free-food picnic that my friends were doing across from my home-away-from-home cafe. We had been eyeing each other for a while before we could get together to chat and get to know each other. When we did, I found out she had always wanted to go dumpster diving, so I set up an insta-date to bike out to the dumpsters that night.

Before we went, though, we headed across the street, and a V-team AFC friend of mine tried to invite himself along. (Yes, this girl was hot. She was the spitting image of a nude model I used to live with.) I told him I'd take him the next night, but he wanted to join b/c of the HB. I eventually got him to shoo, but in the meantime, it dragged my value down, and I wasn't able to escalate with this girl for the rest of the night. The whole thing made me seem desperate to be alone with her, and telegraphed interest sooner than I was ready for.

So, how could I have handled that differently? My friend told me later that he wasn't interested in dumpster diving in the slightest (so he was just trying to steal my target). I had a chat with him about it later, but by then it was too late.

[DJNinja]

so...

if a girl is conservative but is really nice- like a real christian type girl.

What do you say at the end of the D2 when you know, you have no plans on calling her again.

I cut it off after like an hour.

I ended up saying I would call her next week. Which gives her false hope.

not trying to be dishonest like that.

If you're definitely sure that you don't want to see this girl again, just be straight with her: "I had a great time tonight, but I don't think that we're compatible that way."

Then leave it as is. Don't call, email, or text, or reply to any of her messages.

Or you could friendzone her. "I had a great time tonight, but I don't think we're compatible that way. Let's just be friends, ok?"

Girls do it all the time, friendzoning guys who don't meet their standards, so as a high value guy, why not do the same? You can keep her around as a friend (which makes for great social proof when you bring her along as part your tribe when you hit up the clubs), but you have stated your intent that nothing is going to happen beyond the friendzone.

[DJNinja]

Also I have been trying to move faster with women.

met her on campus.

talked for a bit thought I did pretty well with her.

Im trying to get them out quick

But sometimes this can be misconstrued as clingy.

Been texting this girl since Tuesday. Not a ton of texts but a couple. shes responded pretty quickly

I called her yesterday and she texted me "what?"

I thought this was super lame and didn't respond. but think there is a way I can turn this around and get her back on the phone. I feel like if I were to text her telling her what I wanted it is supplicating.

I texted the today to see what her schedule was for today (cause leave for vegas) but to no response.

was a bit unsure how to go about this.

Try calling her again, and if she doesn't reply, next her, sounds like she's flaky and not worth your time or cock.

Another thing to look at is your stack when you meet girls for the first time. Are you building enough attraction & excitement? Think about this: if Brad Pitt gave a girl his personal cell phone number, would she be flaky whenever he calls or messages her to set up a date?

[Ice]

so...

if a girl is conservative but is really nice- like a real christian type girl.

What do you say at the end of the D2 when you know, you have no plans on calling her again.

I cut it off after like an hour.

I ended up saying I would call her next week. Which gives her false hope.

not trying to be dishonest like that.

I would just dead air and move on if no interest. If she contacts you then deal with it then


The thing about girls who are Christians,, varying degrees. Some are h/c and will not kiss until their wedding day, some will only fuck during a relationship, and others can be more free spirited and will let you fuck them in the ass but not their pussy b/c saving for marriage

[Ice]

Also I have been trying to move faster with women.

met her on campus.

talked for a bit thought I did pretty well with her.

Im trying to get them out quick

But sometimes this can be misconstrued as clingy.

Been texting this girl since Tuesday. Not a ton of texts but a couple. shes responded pretty quickly

I called her yesterday and she texted me "what?"

I thought this was super lame and didn't respond. but think there is a way I can turn this around and get her back on the phone. I feel like if I were to text her telling her what I wanted it is supplicating.

I texted the today to see what her schedule was for today (cause leave for vegas) but to no response.

was a bit unsure how to go about this.

Why not txt her to come over to hang out?

[DJNinja]

This happened over a year ago, but I realized I still don't know the best way to handle this.

I met a girl at a free-food picnic that my friends were doing across from my home-away-from-home cafe. We had been eyeing each other for a while before we could get together to chat and get to know each other. When we did, I found out she had always wanted to go dumpster diving, so I set up an insta-date to bike out to the dumpsters that night.

Before we went, though, we headed across the street, and a V-team AFC friend of mine tried to invite himself along. (Yes, this girl was hot. She was the spitting image of a nude model I used to live with.) I told him I'd take him the next night, but he wanted to join b/c of the HB. I eventually got him to shoo, but in the meantime, it dragged my value down, and I wasn't able to escalate with this girl for the rest of the night. The whole thing made me seem desperate to be alone with her, and telegraphed interest sooner than I was ready for.

So, how could I have handled that differently? My friend told me later that he wasn't interested in dumpster diving in the slightest (so he was just trying to steal my target). I had a chat with him about it later, but by then it was too late.

Not much of a "friend" when he tries to jump on your action and cockblock you the whole night.

If he insisted on coming along, bring him along, then take the high road and LEAD the entire interaction - be the awesome LEADER of your tribe who DHVs well and keeps everyone having fun. You won't be able to escalate and isolate, so seed a Day3 with the HB, then don't tell your "friend" about it, or better yet, unfriend him. You don't need guys like that around you who will drag you down and get in your way to success.

[DJNinja]

others can be more free spirited and will let you fuck them in the ass but not their pussy b/c saving for marriage

Hahaha, because they're saving their cooter for their future husband LOLOLOL

BBCY lol