DJNinja & Ice Live Coaching Thread - Halloween Debrief DONE

[DJNinja]

Thanks to all who came last night!

We'll be back to our regularly scheduled Q&A this coming Thursday (11/7), so see you then at 9pm Eastern, 7pm BRAVO/AZ, 6pm Pacific, 4pm Hawaii time! Bring your questions & sticking points, and Ice & I will be there to help you get through them and achieve the Awesome Inspired Life that you deserve to have!

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Didn't have a Live Coaching Thread last Thursday due to everyone being out celebrating Halloween, but we are having one tonight! Post your sticking points & questions about your adventures this past Halloween, and Ice & I will help you get through them.

See you at 9pm Eastern, 7pm BRAVO/AZ, 6pm Pacific, 4pm Hawaii time!

[romanianmmaguy]

Phone game:

I have been texting these 2 girls all week, they laughed a lot during it, and this what happened maybe you guys can interpret it cause im confuzzeled

Call girl, no response but 30 secs later I get
A text:

Her: Why did u call me.

Me After waiting afew mins: Let's do something today weeera! (Her name in polish)

Her: I can't i have plans

Me: Ok

A day later I texted again, but she did not seem so enthusiastic about me as before so I just go cold on her She's all like

"ok and"

so im all like

"chickenshit" (it's an inside thing) and she texts back

...

Then nothing back from me

Call girl 2 - no response

Call again in a few hours, no response but she calls back 30 seconds later but there was something wrong and I could not understand what she was saying so tesxting:

Her: What's up?

Me: Nm lets hit up a movie

Her:Can't going away for the weekend

Me: Ok have fun!

Her: Thankss


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I suck at mall game, I thought I didn't have problems with AA or approaching,but again I opted not to approach many times when I could have and walked around aimlessly. I did approach these two girls, but I realized that they were either really dumb or doped out. Anyway I got blown out when I told one that she was boring.

Another set I went back to my old AMOG ways but not too hard and moderated and managed to peek the interest of a girl and we kept talking, I found out she took some classes at my MMA place and that isolated us from the group by a few feet as we bantered. I had to go so abruptly ejected and while I was quickly walking away she yelled "bye Rom!"

Anyway pointers? How can I avoid the BS that happened from happening again??? This experience was very demoralizing.

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1 small thing how do I start getting invited to parties? People seem to treat them and their locations like top secrets it is very annoying. If I knew where there were I would crash nobody in my school could touch me physically.

[Ice]

Phone game:

I have been texting these 2 girls all week, they laughed a lot during it, and this what happened maybe you guys can interpret it cause im confuzzeled

Call girl, no response but 30 secs later I get
A text:

Her: Why did u call me.

Me After waiting afew mins: Let's do something today weeera! (Her name in polish)

Her: I can't i have plans

Me: Ok

A day later I texted again, but she did not seem so enthusiastic about me as before so I just go cold on her She's all like

"ok and"

so im all like

"chickenshit" (it's an inside thing) and she texts back

...

Then nothing back from me

Call girl 2 - no response

Call again in a few hours, no response but she calls back 30 seconds later but there was something wrong and I could not understand what she was saying so tesxting:

Her: What's up?

Me: Nm lets hit up a movie

Her:Can't going away for the weekend

Me: Ok have fun!

Her: Thankss

I'm thinking your calibration is way off. How do you get a number and the girl doesn't know why you are calling? Also it sounds more like you're bothering them instead of them looking forward to you calling them.


Cut these and keep approaching new ones in field. Post fr's in detail about how you are approaching so we have more info

[Ice]

Phone game:

I have been texting these 2 girls all week, they laughed a lot during it, and this what happened maybe you guys can interpret it cause im confuzzeled

Call girl, no response but 30 secs later I get
A text:

Her: Why did u call me.

Me After waiting afew mins: Let's do something today weeera! (Her name in polish)

Her: I can't i have plans

Me: Ok

A day later I texted again, but she did not seem so enthusiastic about me as before so I just go cold on her She's all like

"ok and"

so im all like

"chickenshit" (it's an inside thing) and she texts back

...

Then nothing back from me

Call girl 2 - no response

Call again in a few hours, no response but she calls back 30 seconds later but there was something wrong and I could not understand what she was saying so tesxting:

Her: What's up?

Me: Nm lets hit up a movie

Her:Can't going away for the weekend

Me: Ok have fun!

Her: Thankss


--------------------------------------------------------------------------

I suck at mall game, I thought I didn't have problems with AA or approaching,but again I opted not to approach many times when I could have and walked around aimlessly. I did approach these two girls, but I realized that they were either really dumb or doped out. Anyway I got blown out when I told one that she was boring.

Another set I went back to my old AMOG ways but not too hard and moderated and managed to peek the interest of a girl and we kept talking, I found out she took some classes at my MMA place and that isolated us from the group by a few feet as we bantered. I had to go so abruptly ejected and while I was quickly walking away she yelled "bye Rom!"

Anyway pointers? How can I avoid the BS that happened from happening again??? This experience was very demoralizing.

-------------------------

1 small thing how do I start getting invited to parties? People seem to treat them and their locations like top secrets it is very annoying. If I knew where there were I would crash nobody in my school could touch me physically.

What ending up happening to you on Halloween?

[romanianmmaguy]

What ending up happening to you on Halloween?

On Haloween Day due to my really shitty logistics I was stuck in the house doing work. Lesson learned there

[Ice]

I suck at mall game, I thought I didn't have problems with AA or approaching,but again I opted not to approach many times when I could have and walked around aimlessly. I did approach these two girls, but I realized that they were either really dumb or doped out. Anyway I got blown out when I told one that she was boring.

Another set I went back to my old AMOG ways but not too hard and moderated and managed to peek the interest of a girl and we kept talking, I found out she took some classes at my MMA place and that isolated us from the group by a few feet as we bantered. I had to go so abruptly ejected and while I was quickly walking away she yelled "bye Rom!"

Anyway pointers? How can I avoid the BS that happened from happening again??? This experience was very demoralizing.

How did you figure they were really dumb or doped out exactly? Are you sure you're not making an excuse for presenting a bad approach? Sounds like they gave you feedback that you were boring - so what was it that made you come across as boring?

How was your tone, your body language, your vocal fluctuations, facial expression?

Why did you eject after talking to that girl, and why did you eject abruptly? How come you didn't go for number close?



This is all learning that will help you in future - you're making some mistakes along the way - just learn from it and get better from this

[Ice]

1 small thing how do I start getting invited to parties? People seem to treat them and their locations like top secrets it is very annoying. If I knew where there were I would crash nobody in my school could touch me physically.

So fact that people are not inviting you to parties is a sign that they don't want you there

what are you doing that makes them feel need to hide location from you?

couple suggestions"

- look on meetup for social groups to join and start meeting new people and getting social circles going
- find people who you get along with from there and build your own and host parties or hangouts


also in future if you have 3 separate questions - post 3 separate posts so DJ and I don't have to quote/unquote each question pls - that'd be appreciated. cheers

[romanianmmaguy]

I suck at mall game, I thought I didn't have problems with AA or approaching,but again I opted not to approach many times when I could have and walked around aimlessly. I did approach these two girls, but I realized that they were either really dumb or doped out. Anyway I got blown out when I told one that she was boring.

Another set of people I kinda knew I went back to my old AMOG ways but not too hard and moderated and managed to peek the interest of a girl and we kept talking, I found out she took some classes at my MMA place and that isolated us from the group by a few feet as we bantered. I had to go so abruptly ejected and while I was quickly walking away she yelled "bye Rom!"

Anyway pointers? How can I avoid the BS that happened from happening again??? This experience was very demoralizing.

How did you figure they were really dumb or doped out exactly? Are you sure you're not making an excuse for presenting a bad approach? Sounds like they gave you feedback that you were boring - so what was it that made you come across as boring?

How was your tone, your body language, your vocal fluctuations, facial expression?

Why did you eject after talking to that girl, and why did you eject abruptly? How come you didn't go for number close?



This is all learning that will help you in future - you're making some mistakes along the way - just learn from it and get better from this

I couldn't tell from far, but when they started talking, one of the girls' speeches was really slurred. The other one randomly asks me "What do you have to offer" which really threw me off and I gave a really gay response. I said she was boring not vice-versa then the other one says, "well that's over" so I say Ok and leave...

[Ice]

I suck at mall game, I thought I didn't have problems with AA or approaching,but again I opted not to approach many times when I could have and walked around aimlessly. I did approach these two girls, but I realized that they were either really dumb or doped out. Anyway I got blown out when I told one that she was boring.

Another set of people I kinda knew I went back to my old AMOG ways but not too hard and moderated and managed to peek the interest of a girl and we kept talking, I found out she took some classes at my MMA place and that isolated us from the group by a few feet as we bantered. I had to go so abruptly ejected and while I was quickly walking away she yelled "bye Rom!"

Anyway pointers? How can I avoid the BS that happened from happening again??? This experience was very demoralizing.

How did you figure they were really dumb or doped out exactly? Are you sure you're not making an excuse for presenting a bad approach? Sounds like they gave you feedback that you were boring - so what was it that made you come across as boring?

How was your tone, your body language, your vocal fluctuations, facial expression?

Why did you eject after talking to that girl, and why did you eject abruptly? How come you didn't go for number close?



This is all learning that will help you in future - you're making some mistakes along the way - just learn from it and get better from this

I couldn't tell from far, but when they started talking, one of the girls' speeches was really slurred. The other one randomly asks me "What do you have to offer" which really threw me off and I gave a really gay response. I said she was boring not vice-versa then the other one says, "well that's over" so I say Ok and leave...

I'm not sure what your approach was exactly and you're giving me bits of information but not all of it

I can't give proper advice if you are holding out on me.

What exactly happened and how did it play out

[romanianmmaguy]

I suck at mall game, I thought I didn't have problems with AA or approaching,but again I opted not to approach many times when I could have and walked around aimlessly. I did approach these two girls, but I realized that they were either really dumb or doped out. Anyway I got blown out when I told one that she was boring.

Another set of people I kinda knew I went back to my old AMOG ways but not too hard and moderated and managed to peek the interest of a girl and we kept talking, I found out she took some classes at my MMA place and that isolated us from the group by a few feet as we bantered. I had to go so abruptly ejected and while I was quickly walking away she yelled "bye Rom!"

Anyway pointers? How can I avoid the BS that happened from happening again??? This experience was very demoralizing.

How did you figure they were really dumb or doped out exactly? Are you sure you're not making an excuse for presenting a bad approach? Sounds like they gave you feedback that you were boring - so what was it that made you come across as boring?

How was your tone, your body language, your vocal fluctuations, facial expression?

Why did you eject after talking to that girl, and why did you eject abruptly? How come you didn't go for number close?



This is all learning that will help you in future - you're making some mistakes along the way - just learn from it and get better from this

I couldn't tell from far, but when they started talking, one of the girls' speeches was really slurred. The other one randomly asks me "What do you have to offer" which really threw me off and I gave a really gay response. I said she was boring not vice-versa then the other one says, "well that's over" so I say Ok and leave...

I'm not sure what your approach was exactly and you're giving me bits of information but not all of it

I can't give proper advice if you are holding out on me.

What exactly happened and how did it play out

I sit on bench debating if to approach 2 girls on other bench or not. I do

Me: Do you guys wanna be my new friends?

Blond: What?

bla bla bla

Doped out girl: He wantssss a ciiigarette, hah!

Blonde: What do you have to offer

Me: My eternal friendship (shoulda said my cock)

Doped out girl: WHaaaa

bla bla bla

Me to doped girl: You're boring...

Blonde: well that's over

Me: Ok bye.