The Bravohood

So, I am doing a complete overhaul of my life. I have suffered through depression, divorce and numerous other self-inflicted maladies to allow this to go on. I am sick of not living the life I deserve.

My question is how does life style really convey attraction? I mean, yes going out instead of staying home is fun but I don't understand the concept of why my love for rock climbing might make a female attracted to me if she personally doesn't like rock climbing...?

It's because people like other people who are passionate about things. It's about having a life — stuff that you believe in, stuff that you love to do.

Example time. I like to ride freight trains when I can. Obviously I'm not going to take a girl train hopping, but just talking about it makes me way more interesting and dynamic than if I were to talk about how I hate my job or my professors or whatever. People with hobbies are cool. People with no hobbies are dull. The more you can convey that your life is awesome, the more people will want to join in on the fun.

If you can talk about the adventure you had while climbing a cliff out in the middle of nowhere, people will be hanging on your every word. It doesn't matter if they share the same hobby — it'll still make you more fun to be around. You're a man of adventure. You're a man of passion and success and conquering distant peaks. This puts you in a completely different league than the frat guy who just hit on her at a party last night.

Make sense now?

Yes and no. I mean I under the gist that having hobbies and passion about them makes me interesting because passion = good quality. But I guess I can't grasp the concept of why my passion for again rock climbing would make some one think oh adventure yay! Lets hang out.

I guess I haven't come that far in terms of social arts and I need to learn more to understand more.

It's not good enough to just say, "I'm a rock climber" and leave it at that. It'll be about how you present it that makes it cool, and that will make people want to be around you. Search around for posts about DHV story telling. That's what this question is really about. Bravo also has a video posted on his blog here: http://bravopua.com/blog/2011/11/12/the ... ay-to-dhv/

Living a cool life, and doing cool shit= a natural byproduct is meeting cool people.

Then the people you meet elsewhere, is the next layer. Then you have cool things to talk about and teach others/do with others.

Thanks I have an idea now of how it works out. I will do more searching when I get off work! Thanks Syrrah for the information.

Thanks Bravo. I think I understand what you mean. What you are saying in my words is that by being active or doing things will cause me to meet other people interested in that active ex: rock climbing.

Which in turn means I have people that may want to go do other things like going to the bar to get a drink while there I meet new people and they ask who I am with I turn and say oh my rock climbing friends we just did so and so conveying DHV... Is that correct?

Also, thank you for taking the time to clarify. I hope I put this in the right spot cause it seems to be a mix of Social Arts and lifestyle choices.

tornapathy wrote:Thanks Bravo. I think I understand what you mean. What you are saying in my words is that by being active or doing things will cause me to meet other people interested in that active ex: rock climbing.

Which in turn means I have people that may want to go do other things like going to the bar to get a drink while there I meet new people and they ask who I am with I turn and say oh my rock climbing friends we just did so and so conveying DHV... Is that correct?

Yes that's correct, but you're missing something else. When you talk about something that you're really passionate about, physiological changes happen. You become more excited, you smile more, your eyes dilate, you become more animated. All of these things are attractive because they are the same responses that you get when you're truly happy. And happy people want to be around other happy people.

Also, I don't always wanna hang out with people who are into the exact same stuff that I am. I want to learn new shit and a girl that can teach me something new that she's passionate about becomes instantly more attractive. See how that works?

In short, nothing bad can come from having a hobby that you're passionate about and having fun with.

I understand, so it's more of a physiological thing. I am getting more of the picture now. So hobbies not only gives you a chance to convey your personality through story telling but also gives off the physiology that you are generally a happy person which it turn makes others want to be around you more. No one wants to hang out with someone who has hobbies and can't smile right?

Thank you for taking the time out to clarify.

It's got nothing to do with hobbies or actions. It's got everything to do with who you are at your core. If you don't know, it's time to figure it out.

Being awesome, kick ass and attractive has nothing to do with action, it has everything to do with BEING that way.