The Bravohood

In general massage, how much is too much pressure? My girlfriend likes receiving her massages extremely rough. She prefers high pressure, pointy movements that might not be the best form, I wonder. I know that myself and others I've massaged prefer a lighter warm up and then heavier/deeper pressure applied later using a larger surface area in movements that correspond to muscles and bones. I'm confident using my fingers to work through knots, but she likes a high pressure elbow moving almost indiscriminately around her back- kinda seems dangerous, and I suppose I don't understand what feels good about it to her.

How do you feel about her preference for an almost stabbing pressure? The last thing I want to do is to damage her muscles/nerves/anything at all.

I saw a friend's copy of the WWT dvds, and they contain a lot of great information about massage. . Here, I'm looking for a mini refresher and your specific perspective on this, as it is my first girlfriend to prefer her massages this way. Thanks!

soulman88 wrote:Hey guys!

I have a couple of questions about women and getting them to squirt/orgasm or basically anything like that. When I was younger I found that the "techniques" and "tricks" on their own weren't enough there had to be a connection and had to be trust for them to open themselves up emotionally to be vulnerable enough to make that happen.

I found I could do that in my longer relationships after time had created that trust but not with the shorter ones. Could you talk a bit about building that connection and trust especially in women that you are only seeing for a few weeks or even have no intention of seeing at all for longer than a month? If they know this I've found they almost don't want to go as deep with me in the bedroom.

Also would you please talk a bit about getting a woman to squirt etc. I've always found it hard to get them do it without focusing on it. How do you get them to do it without them "trying" to do it?

Thanks! I appreciate it!

try soul gazing to build an even better intimate connection. steve teaches it- take your left eye and stare into her left eye. this is the window to her subconcious and her soul. you can relax and talk to her about anything or use this while massage and sex. trust me-some girls said this is weird, but all of them told me they felt very close to me afterwards. Nathan- student

Mischief Maker wrote:1) During the videos you demonstrate a technique involving pressing acupuncture points under the cupline of a woman's breasts.

What is the Chi Kung visualization accompanying this technique?

2) A point I was a little unclear on in the video was the importance of keeping your off-hand resting on the woman's abdomen. Is this for a chi connection, or physical pressure from the outside?

3) What body language signals tell you that a woman is on the verge of becoming overstimulated and you need to switch to massaging her thighs? What signals let you know it's time to go back inside?

4) Do you advise starting with White Tiger Tantra as a first date activity, or does a certain amount of emotional connection need to be there first for the woman to enter that state?

Hey Mischief,

1. donW is going to field this one.

2. Yes to both of those. It creates a flowing of chi and physical pressure that activates the primary Sacred Release Point.

3. She'll start clenching. This is different than her body tightening up. You'll feel her vagina unconsciously clench up and that's your signal to work some place else for a little bit before continuing.

4. I advise using White Tiger Tantra before you start dating the women.

So my husband and I have just recently learned about WTT and I was very intrigued I have never been able to reach orgasm without the aide of a vibrator. Recently I've done some research on vibrators and have come to find out that by using a vibrator I have been sabotaging my sex life and its become increasingly hard to reach orgasm even with a vibrator! I made a decision a month ago to stop using any aides....it's been an exciting and frustrating month!! I've been able to reach an orgasm (clitoral) 4 times! I know this may not sound impressive to some, but it's a whole new thing for me!! I was literally jumping up and down with excitement after it happened the first time.

Anyway....now I'd like to take this a step further...

We've tried working on g-spot orgasms a couple of times, although he hasn't started the massages yet, I think he's a little intimidated. Last night we tried working with the G-spot, it felt great, I ended up having a clitoral orgasm while my husband was working the g-spot. I squirted....however....it was pee....bummer lol

I didn't think it was pee because after I came and soaked everything and then I had to pee really bad. So I am confused and I don't know how to differentiate between peeing and coming. What do we do?

Mischief Maker wrote:1) During the videos you demonstrate a technique involving pressing acupuncture points under the cupline of a woman's breasts.

What is the Chi Kung visualization accompanying this technique?

2) A point I was a little unclear on in the video was the importance of keeping your off-hand resting on the woman's abdomen. Is this for a chi connection, or physical pressure from the outside?

3) What body language signals tell you that a woman is on the verge of becoming overstimulated and you need to switch to massaging her thighs? What signals let you know it's time to go back inside?

4) Do you advise starting with White Tiger Tantra as a first date activity, or does a certain amount of emotional connection need to be there first for the woman to enter that state?

Hey Mischief Maker,
On those pressure points, what’s important to know here, is that these points stimulates a response which is very similar to the response of the woman to a nursing child, and that is the release of oxytocin. Among other things, one of the main effects is that it facilitates a very strong pleasurable, and bonding experience for the female.
Don

nathanexplosionw wrote:

soulman88 wrote:Hey guys!

I have a couple of questions about women and getting them to squirt/orgasm or basically anything like that. When I was younger I found that the "techniques" and "tricks" on their own weren't enough there had to be a connection and had to be trust for them to open themselves up emotionally to be vulnerable enough to make that happen.

I found I could do that in my longer relationships after time had created that trust but not with the shorter ones. Could you talk a bit about building that connection and trust especially in women that you are only seeing for a few weeks or even have no intention of seeing at all for longer than a month? If they know this I've found they almost don't want to go as deep with me in the bedroom.

Also would you please talk a bit about getting a woman to squirt etc. I've always found it hard to get them do it without focusing on it. How do you get them to do it without them "trying" to do it?

Thanks! I appreciate it!

try soul gazing to build an even better intimate connection. steve teaches it- take your left eye and stare into her left eye. this is the window to her subconcious and her soul. you can relax and talk to her about anything or use this while massage and sex. trust me-some girls said this is weird, but all of them told me they felt very close to me afterwards. Nathan- student

LOVE soul gazing, especially the top secret ADVANCED stuff Steve was teaching my guys at our semianr

But please let's leave the questions that guys ask Steve, for Steve


ps. welcome to my forum

Alfredo wrote:Hey Steve, Dan! I live in Peru, and I've been looking for grape seed oil in the type of places you suggest (health food or natural food strores), but having no luck at all. So, my questions would be these ones:

1) What kind of replacements be used for grape seed oil? Is there a product alike that can be ordered over internet?
2) Can any of these replacements be home made?
3) How much from these grape seed oil do you use per session? So I can now how much I would need to buy.

Thanks!!!

Hey Alfredo,
the key is using unscented, natural oils, almond oil is usually safe as well as coconut oil. Don't use oils which are synthetic.
Don

Hi Steve,

1. Are you multiorgasmic? Or you just have 10 sec orgasm after ejaculating? What techniques do you use?

2. What concepts from Don Juan Matus do you currently use? How Carlos Castaneda has influenced you?

3. What is the best way to learn hypnosis? specific action steps and guidelines?

Thanks for your work

I have a couple of questions:

1) Is there a limit where I should stop stimulating her if she is shaking like crazy (full body orgasm). What is the worst that can happen if I don't stop? Serious question.

2) I have the feeling that a lot of women do have quite some mental blocks in their mind. Do you guys use hypnoses to get rid of that shit, or is that something that has no room at WTT.

3) Do you have a hint for a good product or book, to get better at hypnoses. All the books I can find are so damn superficial.

Thank you for being there!

I've been studying PU for quite a few years now, and I have a question that's never been answered...

How do you deal with women who think you're too good for them?

I know, all the experts say avoid women with low self-esteem, they don't make good girlfriends, and all my "insert killer techniques here" gets results even if you're short, fat, bald and impotent. And they DO for all my 'average' looking friends, but the problem is: I look like the 6ft tall, blue eyed, blonde haired, chiseled Anglo-Saxon Adonis that you would see on a WW2 Nazi propaganda poster. {other people's words, not mine}. As God as my witness, I was once rejected from going out on a blind date, and the reason given to the 'match-maker' was: and I quote: "He sounds too good to be true, I'm afraid I would fall in love with him."
Any insight or possible solutions (except plastic surgery) will be greatly appreciated..