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Another typical gun question.

If you could only have one gun for self defence, what would it be?

Bondus wrote:Bravo, how do you get to a point of not caring about whether you win or lose re socially interacting with women. At the moment, I'm investing way too much of my self worth and self esteem into my interactions trying to be preceived as a social success

well #1 lesson is it isnt WINNING a social interaction


I am the master of my world and reality, why do I care what a random chick in a bar thinks about me?


I only care about those people who opinion I value- think about me

like I said on my last blog post, when I am dealing with "shit tests" they are actually "congruency tests" and she is seeing if I am as confident and badass as I think I am

while this is going on, she might be screening me...but I am 100% screening HER to see if she is cool enough for ME


you can be picky when you have choices...when you don't it is hard to wrap your mind around this concept

like a starving kid in Africa who would see me throw away the crust from my pizza...he would KILL for it! He gets a muddy handful of water and some rice and is happy.

So once you get good at this stuff- that is one of the biggest steps

The next is once you let go and quit caring what everyone thinks about you...or realizing that they are in THEIR own head thinking the same thing....and you REALLY don't know what they think but are just imagining what you think they think...

I just imagined they think I am awesome and each girl wants my stick...even if she doesnt know it yet

Rogue4Life wrote:Hey Bravo,

Other than wearing protection, what is your most useful piece of advice, sexual technique, or tip in regards to having sex with a chic?

-Rogue

Don't be afraid to talk to her, ask for feedback, ask questions

When I was starting out, having a girl point out EXACTLY where her clit was, her showing me then using my hand to demo how she likes to rub it, and having them share their fantasies with me...was something I just naturally did because I am so curious.

Once we figured out what she liked it just made things better, and made things better with the next chick

Also helps out TONS with girls who don't have exp. or really even know what they like.

I practiced on girls when I was in HS and after- if you are older just start practicing on the next few, then you got the reps in and the knowledge for alllllllll of the next ones!



good question!

Bravo wrote:
-that help?

Yes....

Follow up question.....

Who is your favorite, Farmer or Maestro, and why?

Rigel wrote:Hey Bravo

i'm baaaaaaack!! (long story)

thanks for doing this though, it's a fun idea! I'm going to lob a few questions, drive home from work, get back on in an hour and catch up!

1) I'm wondering what are specific and best ways to pump up attraction early on in a cold approach interaction?

2) Also wondering what was the latest on your best condoms ever research?

3) And how can you tell when hired guns are actually attracted vs. just doing their job and being flirty/friendly?

1. statements of intent= eg. you are so fucking sexy I had to come over here and seduce you

make it 100% clear from the start what your intentions are
- common issue for guys and especially indirect is doing/saying stuff that a girl or gay guy could and getting the same response- number and plans for a day2

I want it to be 100% clear what I am going for, and then you either strike out or get a hit

part of why direct is so fun and fast, it's either on or off almost from the start

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3. I usually drop an SOI after a few cocky /funny back and forth jokes, with something like "actually I think you are really fucking cool, give me your number so we can grab a drink sometime"

that way low investment and then can just hang or escalate on date.

another way is a bar bet for a drink then when I WIN and she asks me what I want, I respond with

"no not HERE...some place cool....later this week."

then easy to move to number close and then handle logistics thru text

Kaboom wrote:When in a serious relationship, when do you know it's time to end it?

when you start asking questions like that

when I start thinking about trying some new grass


and to flip side it, how do I know I WANT a serious relationship?

when I have almost 0% drive to even want another girl, think about sex with another girl, or fool around with another girl

my GF needs to HIJACK my brain and heart, and when there is THAT level of attraction I know she is special and give it a go

but THAT is why I have had so few LEGIT GFs since my divorce and getting into this- almost IMPOSSIBLE for me to reach that level


but I am honest and in tune with my TRUE feeling and emotions....most guys who get into relationships aren't and are coming from a "pussy poverty" mindset so like the starving African kid I mentioned earlier get hooked as soon as they get some pussy are so THANKFUL they have some- they convince themselves they are happy.

Usually happens with guys who date fat girls or who have a very low sexual partner count....

truth



-Pussy Poverty is a Steve P term

Saber wrote:

Bravo wrote:

Saber wrote:Bravo,

thanks for taking the time to do this. I think i can speak for others when i say it means a lot.

I have a sticking point with qualifying statements. I understand its a matter of getting the girl to work or show why I should be attracted to her, but I'm having a tough time naturally bringing them up in a congruent way? Any advice and examples would be appreciated.

HAPPY to do it brother!


by saying "qualifying statements" do you mean trying to find reasons to be attracted to a girl besides just her looks?

need more info and example...think you might be describing something else

Bravo, yes you're right. That's what I mean.

Example: I like girls who are ambitious and can dance. Those two examples can obviously be substituted for whatever, but what is the best way to qualify for those characteristics in a natural way in conversation?

that is all it takes...really?

sounds a little weak and like you haven't actually thought about that deeper, but really just a

wow that is so awesome that you can dance- then explain why you care about it and how it is important to your life


ambition...that is a grey one because I know lots of people with ambition who don't use it

so someone who actually GETS SHIT DOWN and accomplishes shit- THAT is something I am into

(and actually exactly what I said is how I would frame it to someone who GETS SHIT DONE)

slightly shit on something beneath them, then point out how you dig what they do


BUT- none of that is a routine- that is 100% how I truly feel, so by me making it clear to you in this post and saying it how I did= making it congruent with me and my mindsent= VERY powerful

and a lot more than just going for some random thing and trying to ACT like you are impressed.

Bravo wrote:my GF needs to HIJACK my brain and heart, and when there is THAT level of attraction I know she is special and give it a go

but THAT is why I have had so few LEGIT GFs since my divorce and getting into this- almost IMPOSSIBLE for me to reach that level

Where are things at with your current gf and do you still go out and practice in the field?

Hey Bravo,
First time I've been on here in ages. Thanks for all your help back when I needed it. Life has been good to me since then!
My question: I'm curious to hear about your experiences were with Japanese girls when you visited the country. How did you find the interactions and progression to be different from girls in the US?

Bondus wrote:Kinda related to the first question.How many times did you fail before you became good?

I never "failed"

I had nights where shit didn't go how I wished it would

but I always learned something or got some experience, or met someone that added value to me and my life

so NEVER a failure

some might say that is a cheesy cliche that we have heard for years...but turns out many of those cliques are right

AND because of my background, guns, knives, martial arts- etc...

I already KNEW that that was going to be the learning curve

when I started out I gave myself 1 year to figure "women" out (when I started my self- help journey, didnt even know about Pick Up until a few months later)


Guys get bummed out when they have a bad night, a bad weekend, or week

or "this last month has sucked"


highs and lows...the better you get the more consistent you get, and the less lows


I was going out 3-4 nights a week, some nights doing 10-20 approaches, and later setting a different goal each night and doing whatever it took to reach it

after about 4 months I started to feel like I was getting this


Had a few wingmen quit...a few talk about it while out in field....but I never did

my motivation was too high

after my divorce....to show her

and just my survival