Schedule, goals and my effort!

[Ice]

Your goal from Feb 3:

"Go out 3 times weekly approaching 50 sets = 16 sets a day. Build up failures to gain success. Will improve my verbal communication, shyness aka approach anxiety, plus build general confidence"


Have you gone out at all?


If no, then start now. Single girls are sad today because nobody approached them to ask them out.

[Ice]

I just struggle with approaching and if I do I always feel like I make an ass out of myself or they aren't interested. I just don't feel confident in speaking with beautiful women.

Have you tried warming up at a store and asking about their products

Have you tried talking to just a girl - regardless of how hot she is or not


If no, then start here and work your way up

[tornapathy]

Yes, I have gone out. I am going out tonight. I appreciate your tough love. Believe it or not it doesn't fall on deaf ears, I am doing the best I can. This is a new area for me, so just like you would tell a new person in approaching be patient your gonna fail, I will fail at this too, until I get the right ideas and the correct mindset.

I don't mind failing, it means I can learn more. Plus if I fail I have only two ways to look at it did I fail because I didn't try or did I give it my all and just didn't get the results I wanted but was close? Either way, I am taking responsibility for my actions or lack there of.

I don't pity myself, I struggle with myself. I am not saying oh poor me,I am saying why the fuck can't I get this through my head I need to do these things daily to make my life better.

Yes I haven't answered your questions, I have been thinking and reflecting on them. I will tomorrow.

[tornapathy]

What does communicating,expressing myself successfully look like?

When I approach any individual (professional or personal) it looks like confidence, positivity,expressiveness, clear speaking, asking productive questions, building trust, active listening, showing genuine interst in them, and staying focused at the task at hand.

What does it feel like? I tried answering this question and couldn't give an answer, I need clarification, please.

How will you know when you are successfully expressing yourself?

I will know that I am successfully by not second guessing my interactions. By leaving that person understanding where I stand. By feeling I have made my intentions clear and easy to understand.

My accomplishments for today.

I cleaned my whole apartment.
Started organizing my papers.
Did basic research for learning languages.
Answered questions.
Took the day to myself.
Improved my relationship with adopted cat.
Didn't call, text or constantly stare at my phone!

[Ice]

What does it feel like? I tried answering this question and couldn't give an answer, I need clarification, please.

This tells me you haven't lived this yet

and have not paid enough attention to how YOU feel in the moment

so take time to - especially when convo is going well, not going well. find out why, and move from there


If you take my advice, you will be more successful


If you take some here and there - whichever is more comfortable to you for present time, you will progress slower

ie. my last reply to you.


I get that anyone can go to a store and ask about products.


But not everyone can build attraction, emotional connection, rapport and develop relationships while doing so. Use conversations as a vehicle to build all this.


Ultimately, you should be able to strike up a conversation with almost anyone. You should be good at building relationships and effectively communicate with people with confidence and a touch of charisma.


This is just one powerful tool you can use to help you get there. You're the one that's going to have to do this.


Think you're not spending enough time/focus on living in moment/front line meeting with people/developing social skills