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Monteray wrote:Lads


I'm still trying to beat AA. I can approach that is not my problem, but I find myself only approaching when with someone to push me along or it comes up. basically I'm not forcing myself to open every girl I want to.

Example:
last weekend at the beach just walked upto two hot south american girls and said hey sat down and started talking with them. But today I couldn't even open this girl at the train station when I was by myself, I made the excuse at the time that she was busy on her phone but I realise that is weak.

Is there any other way I could try and help get past this other than manning up and growing some balls?

Sometimes it helps to get some warmup sets in. When starting out, talk to a few sets to get into a talkative, chatty state. No expectations with these sets, simply talk to them for the sake of being social. In this particular case, you could have approached a set near you, talked to them for a little bit (about the weather, about directions to a particular place, whatever), then when you're in a chatty mood, make your approach to the hot girl.

You can even use your newfound "friends" as a springboard to talk to the hot girl: "Hey, I think you're fucking sexy, and my friends over there dared me to talk to you, so here I am, talking to you, because I think you're hot. I'm Monteray, who are you?"

Thanks for the help guys.

I definitely need to approach girls more often.
The pof thing is getting a little sparce. Winnipeg is a 700,000 person fishbowl. And only so many of the girls are online.

I think I'd like to make her a primary, but I still don't want to put in too much relationship effort. Thinking back though, I don't think she really wants someone around all the time either. It's more for what her married friends will think.... Lol

I like the "this is my fun life come join me if you want" frame. I've kinda been acting like this, but I should make it very clear.

As for not telling her about the lay, I should have. Might have changed the tone so she would be more open to an open relationship cause she'd see I am living it already.

Not sure how to bring this up again though without it being awkward or hurting her.

bond_james wrote:Cause I can get 30 round magazines!

Actually I rely on Krav Maga for self defense.

Haha! Might want to check out what Bravo's posted on here about self-defense guns if you haven't already - learned a lot myself, and a lot I could take and dhv w/ girls too


But yea, like B says, I wouldn't want to get shot by a .22, but I wouldn't want to get shot with a paint ball either. lol!


Although, for small game .22 may be alright... main priority for me is getting a m4... if SHTF, that's what I'd rely on

bond_james wrote:Thanks for the help guys.

I definitely need to approach girls more often.
The pof thing is getting a little sparce. Winnipeg is a 700,000 person fishbowl. And only so many of the girls are online.

I think I'd like to make her a primary, but I still don't want to put in too much relationship effort. Thinking back though, I don't think she really wants someone around all the time either. It's more for what her married friends will think.... Lol

I like the "this is my fun life come join me if you want" frame. I've kinda been acting like this, but I should make it very clear.

As for not telling her about the lay, I should have. Might have changed the tone so she would be more open to an open relationship cause she'd see I am living it already.

Not sure how to bring this up again though without it being awkward or hurting her.

700,000 population is a lot... just did a search of pof and there's tons of girls... some guys live in towns where there's 10-20 girls on pof... = you're either need more help with online game, or this is a limiting belief

I didn't consider making my fb a primary until 8 months in - not sure how long you and girl have been going out but yea, I would wait for that discussion, or seed it for future. My fb is essentially my primary and there is little to none relationship effort... b/c we get along so great, naturally it's easy and fun

Also, yes at some point you may have to vocalize it (for you maybe sooner than later), but it also helps if you are living it. So, one thing to tell a girl you're awesome. Another to actually BE awesome.

Going forward, you can do a couple things:

1. You can not say anything and see if she brings it up, and you already know what you're going to say and be chill with it

2. Next time you guys hang out, you can check in with her - so last time we talked, seemed kinda heavy. wanted to make sure we were all good. then see if she brings it up.

If she does, then have convo

If she doesn't, then you decide whether you want to casually lead in and mention this... want her to be cool and this is what you're about. Be ready to risk walking away on this one if you decide to have this convo.

If she doesn't, and you decide not too, then vibe it out and have lots of fun fucking til she brings it up again. And when she does, you can tease her, omg you are totally the DTR girl! (Bay)

And, with what she tells her friends (at the end of the day, it's you two vs. the world so as long as you're happy it shouldn't matter). BUT to give her something to say, cuz she will need to.... she can tell her that she is seeing someone, he's great in bed, big dick, love threesomes, when are they coming over for one, etc etc as long as she makes you look good! Also, helps with fun/joking frame, but she gets your intention.

Monteray wrote:Lads


I'm still trying to beat AA. I can approach that is not my problem, but I find myself only approaching when with someone to push me along or it comes up. basically I'm not forcing myself to open every girl I want to.

Example:
last weekend at the beach just walked upto two hot south american girls and said hey sat down and started talking with them. But today I couldn't even open this girl at the train station when I was by myself, I made the excuse at the time that she was busy on her phone but I realise that is weak.

Is there any other way I could try and help get past this other than manning up and growing some balls?

Woah. Wayyy too much pressure you are putting on yourself man. Not fun, stressful. No wonder you're not approaching.

Instead of thinking 'forcing myself to open', look at it like you're presenting yourself in her life for a very small amount of time. And whether she is cool or not, maybe you'll stay a little longer (and fuck her if she's a very lucky girl )

Could do what poly/moiser are doing with the pickup labs exercises. I think one of them was you had to go up to something like five girls on a cell phone. Make that your next mission if you want to get better at that

Ok awesome advice. Thx.
I think I'll wait to DTR again till she brings it up again. She's a girl. She will. Lol

My online game might need some work...

Yo what's up fellers... So quick question! I'm really tight on money's but I'm debating on really letting my girlfriend know that (never been one to be broke but she invited me out tomorrow night but I have no bills). I'm curious about whether or not it would be a smart move to let her know how tight I am with funds right now.. What do you guys think?

K.C

Guilty Pleasure wrote:Yo what's up fellers... So quick question! I'm really tight on money's but I'm debating on really letting my girlfriend know that (never been one to be broke but she invited me out tomorrow night but I have no bills). I'm curious about whether or not it would be a smart move to let her know how tight I am with funds right now.. What do you guys think?

K.C

Be straight, tell her that money is tight at the moment (and if she's cool, she'll understand that this is only a temporary thing), so if she's planning anything, it's on her. Or you could tell her to let you wear your man pants and let her wear her girl pants...or dress...OR SKIRT!!, and let you do what you do so well...plan a fun & awesome adventure for both of you (and cheap/free for your wallet!)

* and yes, I got that whole man/girl pants part from Bravo

Guilty Pleasure wrote:Yo what's up fellers... So quick question! I'm really tight on money's but I'm debating on really letting my girlfriend know that (never been one to be broke but she invited me out tomorrow night but I have no bills). I'm curious about whether or not it would be a smart move to let her know how tight I am with funds right now.. What do you guys think?

K.C

Hey man, you made her your gf? Congrats GP!! Happy for ya brother


So is this about not going out tmrw night because you have no bills?


If so, I'd frame it like, I did my budget recently and need to tighten up on how much I spend. So instead of going out, how about let's stay in tonight. If you're verrry good, I may even put your pussy in my mouth!


Also, could let her know that yea, hard to say b/c want to have fun with you, I'm keeping a tight lid on how much I spend right now, saving up for x, and it's really important I save up for that so until then, can't spend too much... BUT, good thing I don't need to drink have fun, and what's more important to me is the company I keep/I'm with vs. what I'm doing or how much I'm drinking


And if she isn't cool with you not going out spending money, gotta ask yourself (or her) what does she value, and if she's the type of girl that goes clubbing every night and drinking - if that's what you're looking for right now... maybe not have that convo then, but might be something you'd think about and whether you're cool with. For me, I'm not into girls that have to go out and drink every weekend... like girls that can enjoy a night in with home cooked meal, some wine... and maybe some zip ties and sharpies.



Great job brother!

What Ice said.