Live Coaching Thread 8-29-13 with DJNinja - DONE!

[Guilty Pleasure]

Fellas what's up!!!!! I got 2 questions

1.How do I let my chick know about my participation in pick up? I would do this because I still want to continue going out and practicing but would rather be up front about it than hiding that shit

2. My chick is anti anal but that shit will not fly with me. Best practices for easing a girl into anal?

K.C

[James Bond]

What's the easiest way to widen ones social circle?

[DJNinja]

Fellas what's up!!!!! I got 2 questions

1.How do I let my chick know about my participation in pick up? I would do this because I still want to continue going out and practicing but would rather be up front about it than hiding that shit

2. My chick is anti anal but that shit will not fly with me. Best practices for easing a girl into anal?

K.C

Great questions!

The first one is very relevant, since my girlfriend is on the up-and-up that I'm into this stuff, and she's cool with me helping other guys so long as I'm not actively trying to sleep with other girls

I've framed it as being a part of community of guys who help each other develop confidence, not just with women but in all areas of life. And if you think about it, it's true! The skills that we learn in pickup applies to business, social life, career, etc. So that's how I explained it to her, and she thinks it's SEXY

Girls see pickup as creepy and shallow...but they find confidence and helping other guys become awesome and confident as very attractive


As for the anal, if she's pretty adamant about not wanting to go all-in right away (hahaha), you'll need to ease her into it. What I've done in the past with anti-anal girls is that during the heated moment of sex (doggy-style), rub a finger around her asshole but not into it. The nerve endings around the sphincter are as sensitive as inside, and it will turn her on more...but don't surprise her by shoving your finger in there yet. Let her get used to the sensation of your finger on her asshole, turning her on while you pound her.

In later sex sessions (and with lube of course), stick your finger in there slowly so she feels the sensation of something in her ass.

Eventually, she'll be comfortable with it. But make sure you discuss it first, you don't want to surprise her and shove it in there while she isn't expecting it

And when you do get it in there, do one thrust for me!

[DJNinja]

What's the easiest way to widen ones social circle?

Great question!

The simple answer: go out and be social!

A lil more detailed answer: when you're out in-field, talk to EVERYBODY, not just hit on hot girls. So talk to dudes, talk to chicks you aren't attracted to but seem cool, talk to the waitstaff, be social. If you meet someone who seems cool, get their number. And when you plan something cool (like a house party, a club night get-together, a supper-club meet-up, or need girls to hit up a frat party), invite them!

When you get the time, read up on the epic parties that the A-Team throws (look for FRs and LRs by Maestro, NSM, Cupid, Stealth, and others there). They have an awesome social circle because when they're out partying, they're not just hitting on girls, but they're being awesome and meeting other awesome cool people. Those awesome cool people get invited to the fun things that the A-Team puts together.

When you're THAT guy who's surrounded by girls and other cool dudes, it makes it so much easier to attract other girls who want to be a part of your fun world

[Guilty Pleasure]

Thanks DJ will be framing it just like that brother!

K.C

P.S. I always thrust one for the Bhood!

[DJNinja]

Thanks DJ will be framing it just like that brother!

K.C


P.S. I always thrust one for the Bhood!

Hahaha, awesome!

[Agent007]

Hello DJNinja!

You seem to really be the king around here regarding building a large group of friends for social proof, from what I have seen. I recently moved to a new location and I wanted some advice about starting over with this. How did you learn to build up what you have done? Who were you mentors and what was the best advice you received that helped you get so damn good?

[Agent007]

Oh, is it over? Did I miss the Live Coaching Thread?

[DJNinja]

Hello DJNinja!

You seem to really be the king around here regarding building a large group of friends for social proof, from what I have seen. I recently moved to a new location and I wanted some advice about starting over with this. How did you learn to build up what you have done? Who were you mentors and what was the best advice you received that helped you get so damn good?

Lots of great questions! Awesome!

And yes, we're still live, so you aren't too late.

As I posted earlier, the key to building a good social circle, especially if you're in a new place, is to go out and BE SOCIAL. You're not going to meet anybody by staying at home. So go out and make new friends! When you're out, in addition to working on your social skills and hitting on girls, talk to EVERYBODY. Meet cool guys whom you'd like to hang out with. Talk to girls whom you aren't attracted to, they might be cool to hang out with or have some hot friends that they could introduce you to later. Talk to the staff at the venue, they can hook you up with free cover, drinks, etc. Just get out there and be social!

As far as how I "got good" at this, a couple of things:

I went out A LOT. (And even today, I still go out when I'm not spending time with my girlfriend.) You don't "get good" by sitting on your ass at home, which is why I always encourage guys to get out in-field as much as possible.

Second, I'm STILL learning. Even though a lot of guys consider me "advanced" now, I still keep the frame that there are still LOTS to learn, and even to this day, if I have a question or sticking point to address, I always ask guys like Bravo, Maestro, Farmer, Bay, Smoothcall, NSM, Shotz, Taz, and others who can point me in the right direction. There's always something new and innovative to learn and add to your skillset

Best advice: so much to choose from; everything that I've learned so far has been valuable and a part of who I am today

[James Bond]

Thanks Ninja!