The Bravohood

Also important for me to add - I am 100% content and happy being single. I view it as a good thing that I'm single. I enjoy the freedom and independence that I have. It would take quite a girl to get me to consider a relationship with them.

I get to CHOOSE whether I am in relationship or not --- not d/t lack of options.

That is just one difference between the 'me' today, and 'me' four years ago.

DJNinja wrote: So you "broke up" and she starts hanging out with another dude, and now she's in another relationship with him...Good for her

That first part is hard to read and a total blow to the ego. But you are right. I actually am happy for her.

Yeah there is a few physical things about myself that I dont like.

I have the 5 oceans saved in an email but I have never used it. I also have one about sun signs saved where its one of those i bet i can tell you more about you based on your sign. Never used it. I think part of my problem is when i do approach i need some liquid courage. Otherwise I just see a beautiful woman and look and hope i have that courage when im drunk to approach.

I dont mind tough love from Bravo or anybody else. I dont put pity on myself and I dont expect others to as well. My post is not looking for a hug or pity. Its just my frustrations and maybe just a place to vent it.

I guess I need to figure out what i need to do to better my life. To bring all the replies around. I appreciate all of what you guys have said and I think a part of me is scared to take that leap into the unknown.

As for the MMA training I love MMA and have followed since 93 but I just really dont have the disposable income to do it and ontop of it about 1.5 years ago I fell in love with weight lifting. I went fro 140lbs to 190lbs from weight lifting. Weight is hard to keep on for me and something with as much cardio as MMA i would be eating 23 hours a day . But I generally have more confidence and feel a lot better about myself for pushing everyday in the gym to lift more and to be better.

It's good that you recognize and are honest about being scared to take the leap into the unknown.

I was as well. Best thing I can say is, I've always been WAY happier knowing what happens AFTER I take the leap, than the painful and AGONIZING feeling of wondering "WHAT IF I went through with it".

Work joyfully and peacefully, knowing that right thoughts and right efforts inevitably bring about right results.

James Allen

If you aren't getting the right results...

Temo - how are you coming along?