Article on developing a magnetic personality

[The Chin]

I thought this was well written:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-hais ... 96259.html

[KingOfAces]

good read. thanks chin...

[Michael G]

The key to being instantly liked imo is NOT trying to be liked at all. Don't even give a shit about whether people like you or not.

just act natural, as you would be with your friends or family, and behave this way with strangers you meet. people will pick up on this carefree vibe and be able to relax easier.

trying hard to be liked though? not my style. People will wonder why you are trying so hard to please.

i mean think about it, any person that has become great at anything is not always liked by everyone. To get to that high of a level you are bound to make some enemies along the way.

So sure, try to be a likable person, but also, don't be afraid to makes some decisions that will make you hated by some.

[KingOfAces]

i disagree michael. there's a lot that goes into social interactions and this article is right on. there's a difference between giving the appearance of "not caring" or "not trying" and actually not caring or trying.

its like, indirect game works because we approach and give the impression that we have no sexual interest in the target and that we don't care for her, don't even have any interest in talking to her. we're just saying something random in passing because it popped into our head. thats the impression that we give to her and to everyone else. but we all know that our intention is not only to talk to the girl, but to make her attracted to us and to close her, in one way or another.

if you are serious about any sort of mastery in the social arts, sales, public speaking, negotiating, etc, then you will need to spend time learning the pscyhology of how these things work and the process behind it. pickup is sales. and i've worked with, trained, managed and competed with hundreds of "salespeople" through the various business's i work with. and paying attention to these principles is the difference in a salesperson making $35k a year vs making $350k a year. what kind of results do you want to get with women? $35k worth of results? or $350k worth?

[Michael G]

its like, indirect game works because we approach and give the impression that we have no sexual interest in the target and that we don't care for her, don't even have any interest in talking to her. we're just saying something random in passing because it popped into our head. thats the impression that we give to her and to everyone else. but we all know that our intention is not only to talk to the girl, but to make her attracted to us and to close her, in one way or another.

Good Point.

I wasn't saying that the advice she gave in the article wasn't useful, i actually think most of what she wrote was true. Especially for seduction.

But what i was saying is don't be so obsessed with trying to be liked by everyone that it makes you fearful of making decisions that will make you disliked by some. And I am saying this as if you are coming from a position of power.

For instance if you were president, not every decision you are going to make is going to make everyone happy. In fact you will get a lot of people hating you for the decisions you make. but still, some will like you.

It's like how Machiavelli says,

“A prince must imitate the fox and the lion, for the lion cannot protect himself from traps, and the fox cannot defend himself from wolves. One must therefore be a fox to recognize traps, and a lion to frighten wolves. Those that wish to be only lions do not understand this. Therefore, a prudent ruler ought not to keep faith when by so doing it would be against his interest, and when the reasons which made him bind himself no longer exist. If men were all good, this precept would not be a good one; but as they are bad, and would not observe their faith with you, so you are not bound to keep faith with them.”

So yes, be the likable person (fox) when you must, but also know when to be the lion.

[KingOfAces]

agreed. don't focus on trying to make every person like you at all times. i think i may have misunderstood your original post michael. i agree with what you're saying here.

good points here on several topics. just remember, being a skilled negotiator/salesperson/social artist, is a learned skill that requires practice and education.

happy new year guys!

[Michael G]

Cheers! Happy New years to The Bravohood. Happy sarging out there tonight be safe don't drink and drive!