Seriously considering a vasectomy

[Hexxus]

I have been weighing the pros and cons of getting a vasectomy for a while now. I will be 27 next month and as it stands I don't want kids now and I do not foresee myself wanting them in the future.

Even if I did want kids, I don't think I would ever trust a women enough to have a kid with her. Most relationships are doomed to failure and since family court almost exclusive favors women I would be stuck sending some girl a % of my income for a kid I rarely see while she was off fucking another dude.

I have had a few close calls in the past few years. I have had two condoms break. Another time I had a girl tell me she was on birth control to later find out through her friends that she wasn't and lies to guys about it because she wants a baby and does not care who fathers it. Lucky I knew better and wore a rubber for STD protection.

The only thing stopping me right now is the question "what if I change my mind someday".

I'm curious to see what some of you gentlemen have to say on the topic.

[Ice]

What you might think/believe today


Might change in a moment


Let alone few years down the road


I went through a period in my life where I never wanted kids. Similar reasons as you just listed


And now someday I do


So why cut yourself from that?


What I didn't realize earlier was the trust issues and negative views was stuff I had to work on myself. It's a defeatus attitude and doesn't get you anywhere.

There are trustworthy women out there that are good, loyal and want a relationship and life with good guys.

Figure out your condom breaking situation, but don't cut yourself off from having kids because you had a couple close calls.


--just my thoughts

[Metz]

Would you consider adoption as an alternative?
Does it have to be "your" kid?

[Nicolo]

I would say that you should look more deeply into your trust issues with women, which typically stem from our own trust issues with ourselves. The reason I got into PU is so when the woman that I choose to spend my life with comes into my life I will know how to get her and how to keep her. Please dont take offense to my trust comment, but that was my experience with myself. Usually the issues I have with other people have more to do with my own issues. You can't change other people but you can change yourself and when I did that; the way I saw other people changed. Plus there are other options to prevent pregnancy like comdoms, a girls mouth or face, and plan b.

On the other end of the scale I am a father and the best moments I have in my life are with my son. Teaching him how to live life and become a man. It really puts you in a position to change the world as you attempt to shape a human being into someone that can make a difference in the world.

[Hexxus]

Thank you for all the replies. I agree that what I think now could change in a second, though the idea of a accidental pregnancy scares the shit out of me. I wish there was a more viable but less permanent solution for guys. Condom breaks and slips are not something you can prevent 100% of the time. I never really worried about it until it happened to me.

I don't take offense to the idea that it could be an issue with myself that prevents me from trusting women. I have to be able to objectively look at weakness in myself in order to improve it. I do have a tendency to think the worst of most situations in general. I also feel that family court favors women in most cases.

I do think my mistrust of women comes from my past experiences.

I have had a girl falsely accuse me of stalking and harassment for reasons unknown to me. She reported it to anyone who would listen for about 6 months, the police, the college I was going to at the time and all over the internet. The guy from the police station was cool about it, but security at my campus came across as if they were certain I had been bothering her "We see no reason that she would make something like this up". Lucky for me I had put in 70+ hours at work that week and was clocked in and during time I was supposedly stalking her. Told them that and if they press the issue they get to meet my lawyer. Never heard from them or her again.

I know there are good women out there, but I don't know if its worth the risk.

No, I wouldn't care if they where "mine" or adopted. Not worried about "spreading my seed" as far as im concerned the world is over crowded as it is.

[BigJeffrey]

I have a different take on the situation.

I myself have thought long and hard about getting a vasectomy. Some doctors won't perform if they consider you to be too young.


I myself am going to get a vasectomy , in fact I am going to do it in the spring when I am on vacation from work because they recommend time to heal.


My reasons for doing so are not because of trust issues with women or the fact that family courts are bias towards women.

I am doing it because I don't want to be a father. I don't like children and prefer to not have to be around them.

I have been this way for a long time and was always told" wait until your older , you'll feel different."
My feelings have been the same for 15 years.

I know I don't want the responsibility and would never be willing to sacrifice what is necessary to be a good father.

Those are the reasons I am going to get one. It is not a decision I have made lightly and it is something you really need to sit down and think about.

If you feel as though you want one , consider the reasons why you want one and whether those are solid reasons to do so.

Just my two cents.

[Moiser]

Hey Hexxus and BigJeffery, I am interested to know if you guys went through with this?

I'm sorry I missed this post first time around.