Feeling like you're faking it is perfectly normal.

[Boom]

It's been quite some time since I've posted on the forums. I'm sure there are plenty of new faces going through the same experience I, like many others on here have.

LifeHacker posted a link today (http://lifehacker.com/overcoming-impost ... socialflow) that caught my attention, because I know that when I was balls deep in this kick-ass forum of ours, half the time I felt like I was faking it.

As I typed up field reports, and completed homework that Bravo gave me, and followed the advice from higher ranking guys on here, I know that the majority of the time I felt as though I wasn't being myself. That feeling can be real shitty at times.

I simply wanted to share this link so you newer guys know that it's both normal and healthy to feel that way. "Fake it 'till you make it" is a phrase that is slung around a lot in the community. As you progress through your own journey, you're going to find yourself questioning your new, as DJ calls them, "superpowers". It's not going to feel as though you're actually growing, and it certainly won't feel natural.

But that's why you're here, isn't it? That's why you took the red pill. That's why you followed down the rabbit hole. It's because what felt natural for you wasn't cutting it. How you were before was just not getting the job done for you. You wanted more.

I assure you that this forum has the answers to your questions. I can tell you from experience that sometimes as you're typing up reports, or out in field talking to some woman, that you're going to think to yourself "this kind of stuff doesn't happen to me, if the guys on the forum knew who I really was, they probably wouldn't even believe this."

But we do (whizkid clearly an exception), because we've been there, we've faced our trials, and now doing this barely takes a second thought. Our only hope is that this forum thrives and grows because you newer guys don't pussy out, and keep pressing forward on your journey. It's up to you, after all, to not waste that little red pill.

[(Q)]

I understand that, bro.

I have felt after a few great interactions that maybe I had just gotten lucky. I have also looked at other guys and thought that maybe they just got lucky.

Looking back, I was just trying different approaches, wore different outfits, used different magic tricks, went to different venues, tried different activities, went out with girls from different cultures, etc. until I found which of them actually fit "me."

I've tried a lot of things just to use as DHVs, but after a while, I kept the ones that I genuinely enjoyed.

I believe that in a way, many of us are doing the same thing – finding out what we like (and what we are like) through trial and error.

[(Q)]

It doesn't make us fraudulent, necessarily. It doesn't mean we are impostors; we are just trying new things and seeing what fits.

The article has a point that I do like – "Realize that you are not a constant."

Just age alone makes people change, so technically everyone become 'fake' compared to what they were years prior, lol.

If improvement is change, then this impostor feeling just a growing pain!

[Spoke]

I understand that, bro.

I have felt after a few great interactions that maybe I had just gotten lucky. I have also looked at other guys and thought that maybe they just got lucky.

Looking back, I was just trying different approaches, wore different outfits, used different magic tricks, went to different venues, tried different activities, went out with girls from different cultures, etc. until I found which of them actually fit "me."

I've tried a lot of things just to use as DHVs, but after a while, I kept the ones that I genuinely enjoyed.

I believe that in a way, many of us are doing the same thing – finding out what we like (and what we are like) through trial and error.

I think the real question is why do we need all those tricks and DHVs and faking it by the way we learn it, like as what we are is not enough and we are not equal to the girl(wrong mindset), the whole idea of DHVs is to qualify ourself to the girl and show her that "what you are" is good enough for her.
Someone who is really so awesome doesn't have to prove himself to others, they would be able to see it by themself, it is like marketing yourself to people, maybe even false marketing.

Instead of just being social and hitting on women and seeing if you fit each other, I think it all comes down to meeting someone who likes you for who you are at this point of time and you like her for who she is again at this point of time(without compromising).