Change your perspective

If I woke up early this morning, and was stumbling to the bathroom to piss and stepped in cat shit it would make my day. Actually if I stepped in cat shit, slipped and fell into it, I would be fucking ECSTATIC!

-I was telling this to my friend last week and she started laughing and it inspired me to write this.

 

 

So why the hell would I be happy if I stepped in Kali’s shit?

Just a few weeks ago I was cleaning out her litter box, and was frustrated that I couldn’t use the $200 self cleaning litter box I bought awhile ago, it doesn’t fit at my new place. As I am scooping it I was thinking how sick and tired I am of cleaning this damn thing out.

 

Then Kali got sick

 

Real sick

 

Around 2 grand and a week later, all I know is she skin and bones and every time I looked at her I had to check if she was even breathing.

They put in a feeding tube and every few hours I had to squirt food thru it, not fun….

A week of that and she still isn’t doing better. I have never had a pet that was my own before. I am not even a fucking cat guy, my x-wife wanted one and I rescued her and ended up keeping her for the next 7 years. I have also never had a pet die on me, so was planning how to deal with everything if she didn’t make it and where I might bury her.

After an x-ray and more tests (goodbye $$) they decided to move her feeding tube a little higher up.

 

So by now it has been over a week since she has even taken a dump. Every morning I checked her litter box hoping to find one

 

All it took was a few weeks and I went from hating cleaning out her box, to feeling like a kid at Christmas hoping the box I was opening was the present I had been dreaming about! Then I even got to the point where I was hoping she had an accident somewhere in my place, and all of us with pets know the WORST way to find those is by stepping in them!

It’s almost like pets pull that shit on purpose. They don’t go and puke, piss, or shit over on the tile or vinyl floor, where we could clean it up with a few paper towels and then a once over with some cleaner,  they do it right in the middle of the room on the carpet, like a big FUCK YOU, this is YOUR FAULT! Or better yet, they do it right in our normal walkways so we step in it, always at the worst time, usually running late for something…

 

But even if any of those things happened, it would have made my day! Because I would have known her how digestive system was starting to work again, which was one of the signs we were waiting for to see if she was going to pull thru.

 

….think that is enough talk about shit, but that got me thinking

 

It is all our perspective, if we don’t like something change it.

 

I didn’t need this to happen to appreciate that Kali was healthy and alive, but it is crazy how one change and all of the sudden something we hated, we are looking forward to.

 

Another example of this, one of my buddies sent me a picture of him with a girl he starting hanging out with, and when I say hanging out I meant spending some time with and fucking. He is older, she is younger and pretty smoking.

He emailed me a pic and added-

Shit, I feel like I’m getting OLD!

Look at this photo–she looks young and beautiful.

I look fucking old.

Tell me it’s not that bad.

My response was-

all I see is a fucking pimp with a hot young chick!!!

 

A student I just did a coaching call with was emailing me, all of his friends were hooking up with chicks he opened that night. Of course he was pissed off and I told him he needs to have a heart to heart with his “friends” after to make sure they don’t do that shit again. BUT I did have to point out that he was responsible for everyone having fun that night, and all of his friends riding HIS COAT TAILS, not too bad and pretty cool progress in the big picture! (and once he fixes the dickhole friends angle, then should be awesome)

 

The only thing we have true control of in this entire world is ourselves and how we react to outside stimuli. So if you don’t like something, change the way you look at it.

 

One of the biggest examples of this are new guys who get into Pick Up. The want to be hooking up with hotties and strippers after a week or two. When they aren’t, they get pissed and frustrated. They always want to compare themselves to other people, guys on the forum, or guys they read about in a book.

 

DON”T

 

This never was a problem for me, I think from my martial arts training and tactical training I learned how to live in the moment. During force on force gun training, me thinking about what might happen a room or two from now divided my focus, and made me perform less effectively in my current training scenario (eg. hostage rescue) and because we were using sims or paintballs, if I wasn’t on point I would get shot. Getting shot hurts, so you learn very quickly to focus to avoid the pain.

 

I understand that most of you haven’t been in situations like that, but you can still understand the principle behind it. If you are jamming out on a guitar with your buddies, are you thinking about what you MIGHT be playing 5 mins from now, no you are playing music now and trying to make it sound good.

Just like painting, you want to think about the final product, but you should be focusing as much as you can on your next brush stroke, THAT is the one that matters RIGHT NOW, not the one 15 mins later.

 

Focusing on the negative, worrying about the future, not making the most of what is going on right now is killing you.

If you are you need to shift your perspective, instead of thinking “I talked to 20 chicks tonight and didn’t get to SNL any of them” you should be thinking -WOW I went out and talked to 20 new people, had fun, and might make some cool contacts out of them for later. I wouldn’t have been able to do that a few months ago!!”

 

Appreciate the small things, appreciate the things you take for granted, appreciate even the things that annoy you.

One day you might be missing them…

 

 

-and Kali update

she has had her feeding tube taken out yesterday by the vet, is putting on weight, and eating a ton

 

she has also taken the biggest turds I have ever seen from her, and it put a giant smile on my face!

 

haha

14 comments

  1. Maestro

    I love this perspective. Day in and day out, it is so easy to take things for granted. There are days that I resent having to work. And yet I love my job and would be heartbroken without it. So Glad that Kali is doing better. From now on anytime someone says, Oh Shit, I’m gonna smile and think about how anything can be turned into something positive.

  2. james100

    great post. latley i’ve been to hard on my self, for not appoaching everyday and opening every set, but i realize iam just in the pain period and i’ll get over. for now iam still learning and when i feel down, i ask my self if i am the same person from a month ago, and that keeps me going.

  3. Fro

    Good stuff man, funny out we can get so wrapped up with stuff especially the negative. Yet not take the time out to look outside of us and enjoy the positive things that surround us.

  4. Smoothcall

    It took stepping into cat shit to turn you into Eckhart Tolle?

    But point taken.

    Very happy Kali is recovering.

  5. KingOfAces

    This is great to here. So much truth here that we miss out on. Love this line: “The only thing we have true control of in this entire world is ourselves and how we react to outside stimuli. So if you don’t like something, change the way you look at it.”

  6. Science

    Great point bravo.

    Every now and again I notice things like this. I’m constantly wanting to be better, stronger, richer, a better pua. Then I’ll notice a poor disabled guy in a wheelchair, or someone with a disability, anyone worse off than me, and it just snaps me out of it.

    Makes me feel like a douche when people are suffering everyday and wanting more than the amazing things i already have. I need to be reminded for the things im so lucky for in life, my health, friends and family.

    I had this moment again after reading this, so thanks man.

  7. Taz

    Love the inside our perspective! We take a lot of shit for granted each day, and this just shows how little things can matter a lot!

    Life is like one giant water slide, and if you are 6 feet underground then you should be grateful for what you do have….LIFE!

  8. Joe

    I like this post. I need to start having this mindset when I go out sarging. My thing is though it is hard to stay positive after a LOT of disappointment.

  9. Dhiram

    Good post Bravo!

    Keep them coming 😀

    Changing the way you see things is important. I read it somewhere that we see life through lenses, just like contact lens, if we view something as negative, then change the lens to analyse that situation in different perspective.

    Dhiram

  10. Ryanlondon

    Great post Bravo

    It is true, one of the biggest reasons people make themselves unhappy is thinking about the past or the future (that hasn’t even happened and never plays out as you imagine!) and it causes a lot of pain

    Enjoy the moment, if you are out Sarging, enjoying the atmosphere for a while, relax, have fun, look at the décor, enjoy your drink (most PU wont be drinking alcohol though!), enjoying being with your wingman and have fun, when you ready go run some routines/openers…see what happens, have some fun

    I think you are right, guys, me included, can come to a standstill in their PUA journey if they focus to quickly on results

    PUA is an art form and you got to learn how to put the paint on the brush, where to buy the best paint, how to hold the friggin brush right, before you start painting your first master piece!

    Excellent post on perspective & for me I read it as ENJOY your nights out/day game, & don’t focus completely on the OUTCOME

    Peace

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