Since my divorce in 2005 I have been working on improving my life, especially on connecting with others, primarily women 😉 .
Since starting BravoPUA.com 3 years ago, I have learned more about teaching than all the previous years I was teaching Pick Up and Shooting, Knife Fighting, and Close Quarter Combat (since 2000) combined!
I’ve kept my PRIVATE “bootcamp” event PROJECT X off the PUA radar, because I wasn’t sure it would even work.
Living together with students, spending every hour with them for days downloading as much info as I can…hell I wasn’t even sure if they were going to like what I was teaching let alone if it would blow up in my face.
PROJECT X, where I hand select the guys who can attend from an inbox full of applicants and invite them to Arizona so we can all work together and leave with memories and knowledge that will last a life.
At the end of the first one, something awesome happened. We were all brothers at the end.
The BROTHERHOOD was something I was hoping might happen, but never dreamed it would develop into anything as awesome as it did.
Guys were loving their newfound PUA skills, texting me in the middle of the night about some crazy adventure they just were on, guys were travelling across the world to hang out with their PX brothers- INCLUDING ME!
Well during the last one- PX4, I had Cinema come out and film some of it for you guys, so you can get a better idea about me, what I am about, what and how I teach, how those who attend can be transformed, and the bonding we all experience at PROJECT X.
It is my HUGE fucking honor to show you this short film and let you know that now, after 3+ years, I have trained enough Coaches and Jr. Coaches to MY INSANELY HIGH STANDARD that we can now offer PROJECT X more often and accept more applicants!
So check out this video and let me know what you think.
I showed my mom this video and she didn’t like all the cussing and I don’t think she was fond of the student making out with a chick at the bar….
My dad asked me a while ago why don’t I advertise with “teaching nice guys how to meet nice women….or something like that” and I don’t think has ever believed what I do is a real job
but after watching this he said it was great and was proud of me
so be careful, from those two reactions, this will either finally make you love me or make you feel like I am an even bigger disappointment than before and you still can’t understand why I put so much of my life on the “interweb”
If you are ready to change your life, go to PROJECT X to apply and hopefully I will see you there.
I see it all the time online (my forum included) and then after I read the post I am left wondering where the shit test was, or even worse, reading something where the girl is making it clear as day that she is NOT interested in the guy but he takes it as a shit test(maybe because she was giving him “shit” when she told him to fuck off??)
So to get us both on the same page, think of a SHIT TEST as a CONGRUENCY TEST.
She is seeing if you are CONGRUENT with the confident vibe you are putting out there, if you really are the confident guy who (unlike most guys in there) had the balls to approach her, and she is seeing if you are man enough….to handle a woman like her.
If you are confident and congruent with what you are spitting, and not just using a few canned lines you got out of a book, it can actually be pretty easy to deal with.
NOTICE that I didn’t say “pass”.
I am not there to PASS her tests, I am talking to her to see if SHE is cool enough for ME. (part of my whole Alpha Male mindset 🙂 )
So just like your job or any hobby you have, if someone asks you a few follow up questions you should be able to respond pretty easily to almost anything they say….because you have legit experience in that area and it is one with you.
Before I became “Bravo” the 2 ways I had to deal with this the most was with magic and my tactical background.
With the gun, knife, tactical teaching stuff- every guy who has served, studied martial arts, or was just into it would want to know HOW I got into it and who I had worked with. There are so many posers in this field, that guys still come up to me at PUA events and will resume check me.
-which I am 100% fine with….because I am congruent 🙂
The BIG area that this really came up with is with magic.
I was really into magic as a kid…but then one day some guys in school said it was dumb, so I stopped doing it. I was still REALLY into it, watched every special on TV there was, and would even do a few illusions during lunch breaks in my gun classes…to relax the vibe. But it wasn’t until I got into self help that I realized a life where I avoided things that I am into because someone that I don’t care about tells me they are lame= a shitty life. So I got back into, REALLY back into it, got pretty fucking good and for a long time magic was one of my PUA crutches. I would carry a few decks of cards on me at all times! But not because I always wanted to be ready, but because if I didn’t have them I wouldn’t be able to DHV, so wouldn’t be able to approach…oh man. It was however, AMAZING at helping me get good at dealing with people’s shit tests. Once you are able to control a large group, deal with guys giving you shit and trying to ruin it, deal with the drunk girl trying to take all of the attention= talking to a few girls is easy son!
So when I came across this vid, it instantly brought me back to some of the shit I had to deal with.
It’s for some new movie about stage magicians, the preview looked dumb, the kid in the video always gets me confused with the nerdy kid from Arrested Development, and to make it worse- the chick in the vid fucks up his shit and didn’t play along
AFTER SHE WAS THE ONE WHO ASKED HIM TO PERFORM
Now one thing I loved about this vid is the way he gave her the business right back. At the end when he really zings her with how he doesn’t want to find her, she even laughs at the end when she says he is “such a jerk”.
She doesn’t REALLY think he is a jerk!
-and even if she does, I would rather a woman have AN emotional reaction when interacting with me than NO reaction, it’s easier to turn a negative into a positive than a DEAD ZONE into a positive.
She clearly has an attitude….. which some guys love, and from my years of experience have a feeling that if a guy couldn’t handle a few of her smart ass remarks there would be ZERO chance she would ever become attracted to him.
Which this leads into something I teach called DEALING WITH RESISTANCE.
I teach there are 3 ways to deal with resistance, and this vid was a great example of 1 of the ways
FORCE vs FORCE
Think about Mike Tyson throwing a punch at your head. Even if you have done some boxing and have a good block, his punch is going to blast right thru you and still do damage.
-less than optimal response
Now think of a 5 year old kid throwing the exact same punch and you block exactly the same. You are going to avoid any damage AND also very likely, the kid is going to hurt their arm/fist on you.
In one instance it was the wrong move, and the other it worked out great. It all depends on who had the stronger force, and they ended up “winning”.
“those jeans are kind of gay”
“no they aren’t they are actually really cool”
“you walk around with a knife in your pocket”
“ya, it’s a great tool and I use it all the time”
See how it can be a fine line between qualifying, just matter of factly responding or like the punch a GREAT response?
One issue, like in the video, is that it is harder to LEAD the story somewhere else…you are just kind of left hanging with the person who’s frame/force was stronger to move on, which once you are good you can start thinking a few steps ahead of others. Also when dealing with people who out rank you (boss, cops, etc.), you maybe don’t want to do this because even if you “win” they can still trump you and fire you, or arrest you.
Dealing with force by meeting with force is definitely a way to deal with resistance…..but some times not the BEST way.
Especially for a guy who is working on improving his PUA skills, it can quickly turn into a pissing match.
If this resonates with any of you, let me know in the comments and I can make this a 3 part-er and cover the next 2 ways.
I know that I have already told quite a few of you that I was locking down dates…and that ended up taking longer than I wanted.
BUT I just finalized everything with the hotel and my coaches. So we are good to go!
I wanted to plan another Project X before it gets hot out here in Phoenix, but I also wanted to give you guys enough time to book this early in advance so you can save some $$ on travel.- see how cool I am! A few guys who I have been coaching already said they were 100% in as soon as I post this, so if they follow thru, that means a couple of the 6 spots could already be taken, so if you are serious about wanting to attend, apply ASAP!!!
(this is 100% true and not just a marketing trick)
What is Project X?
It is the ultimate seminar/bootcamp. The event I always wished others would offer when I was starting out, that I wanted to offer at my old job, that I couldn’t offer until I started my own company!
A live-in, seminar, bootcamp with infield coaching, with only a handful of students and plenty of coaches, where I and the coaches teach you absolutely as much as we possibly can! Where you can ask any question you want. Only 6 students so you actually get TONS of personal attention, where you don’t have to be embarrassed about a large group hearing your story, and 5 other guys who are in the same boat that by the end will be your BROTHERS!
But before I tell you how-to, here is some more information about what Project Xwill entail-
WHERE– in the Phoenix/Tempe/Scottsdale AZ area
WHEN– (around the middle of April)
Not having it in a boring and non-personal conference room
Booking a suite and adjoining room that will be ours for training/partying/and some sleeping (no need for you to spend more $ on a hotel room)
Once you arrive in Phoenix, the hotel has a shuttle to and from the airport for FREE
During Project X, I will cover transportation- no need to rent a car
During Project X, lunch and dinner will be on me ( good shit, sushi, steaks, etc)
You will get my most up to date and powerful PUA tactics, stuff I never have publicly shared
Advanced coaching from Bravohood Brown belts
Infield training at night
ADDED Day Game
ADDED FASHION MAKEOVERS
Follow up conference coaching call afterwards, to make sure everyone is still kicking ass
ONLY 6 students (with at LEAST 3 coaches…1/2 ratio, maybe more coaches)
STILL LESS than what other NO-NAMER PUAs charge, and they don’t teach/train for as many non-stop hours, and they make YOU cover hotel and food!!!
HOW TO APPLY TO PROJECT X-
Send an email to – ProjectX@BravoPUA.com
Make the subject of the email “I want into PROJECT X“
The email MUST contain the following information (I don’t need PAGES, just a few paragraphs max)
Name (real name and PUA nickname)
Age (must be at least 21 years old to apply)
Cell phone number
Number of sexual partners (only FULL closes count)
Previous PUA/self help training and how long you have been into THE GAME
Why you want to attend
What you hope to gain from attending
Your biggest sticking points
A recent picture
How you heard about PROJECT X
Since we will be LIVING together the whole time, I read thru each application and hand select who will be invited to attend, to make sure they click with the other attendees, that they are 100% serious about learning, and that they are trustworthy. (unlike the other guys, MY decisions aren’t controlled by the $). This is a lot more work for me, but trust me you, if you are here you will be very thankful!
I will then go thru each email ASAP and pick the guys I think will get the most out of this and tell you how to sign up, you then will have 24 hours to do so, if I don’t hear back then I will move on to another applicant and give them the once in a lifetime opportunity to attend.
Bravohood members have been asking when the next Project X was going down…
I’ve had more coaching and 1on1’s than ever before (going to bed shortly, 3 days of 1on1 starting tomorrow) and because I put in SO much energy and time planning and running PX, I’ve been waiting until I had a break in my work schedule before I could commit to the next one.
Well that break is coming up.
I will be locking down specific dates and times shortly, then opening up the application phase again.
So if you read the reviews on my forum, the threads the guys who have previously attended have posted, (one of my favorites was DJNinja’s foursome) and want in, get ready.
I will only be accepting 6 guys again, and don’t know when I will offer then next one….
….I have a rough life, but I do it all for you guys!
“NICE guys” love to try and get on their moral high horse when getting into pick up. They develop a set of beliefs about what is RIGHT and what is WRONG, either thru crappy love movies, bad advice from women, or just from their distorted imagination about what women want.
One of the most frustrating things, as a coach, is trying to break thru this….getting them to realize they don’t understand women and to drop all of their incorrect and unsubstantiated beliefs.
So while we were laying in bed after sex, and the conversation started to go down this path, I thought hearing it from a woman might help some of you- so quickly grabbed my camera! (which of course is always strategically places near my bed)
We already talked about my job and everything I do, and we also made some videos after this…further proving that she was a NAUGHTY girl just WAITING for a man to come along and make her feel safe enough to share her inner slut, which I was happy to help.
Which leads into another important lesson. The sex toy industry is already over 4 BILLION dollars a year, which is a market dominated by women (toys for women / porn for men)- how much more proof do guys need that women WANT sex!!!
Lastly the audio also proves that being 100% open and honest with your intentions can lead to some amazing experiences.
Isn’t it about time you learn how to be the man they are playing with themselves every night thinking about?
“Wherever I go, everyone is a little bit safer because I am there.
Wherever I am, anyone in need has a friend.
Whenever I return home, everyone is happy I am there.”
Before I got into Pick Up, when I was a firearms and tactical instructor, I put the Warrior Creed on the first page of every training manual I wrote. It resonated with me then, and even more so now.
The first part is what originally clicked. I was teaching survival skills, skills that people would hopefully NEVER need to use, but if they did need them, they would be prepared.
The 2nd part made sense because…..well anyone who knows me in real life, knows how I treat others, and also how I like to keep my good deeds private. 🙂
The last part, that was always the one that I felt I connected with the least. I wasn’t really close to my family, had a few close friends, but for the most part did my own thing. I could leave town for a week, and nobody would even know I was gone. I can remember thinking, if I died, how many people would even notice or miss me?
After I started my self improvement journey and then got into Pick Up, I learned how to connect with others on a deeper level. For the first time in my life, I actually started to think that people WOULD miss me, and that they would actually be excited to see me when I return.
Now I don’t just think that, I KNOW that!
Such a short and simple adage, which means so much
If each section doesn’t resonate with you-
what are you doing to change that?
what goals have you set in your life, and are you actively working on reaching them?
One of my recent goals was to eat sushi and drink sake in Japan, and as I prepare to fly there next week, I know that like always, everyone around me is safer, because I am there. No matter where I go, even if I can’t speak the language, I will make friends and have fun.
Lastly, I know that I will be missed and when I return, those I care about will be happy to see me.
-If I don’t fall in love with a Geisha girl or go to war with the Yakuza (sucks for THEM!), I should be back around the middle of the month. I will be checking my email and will get back to any customers as soon as I can throughout, but for much of this trip I will not have access to the internet. Which is exactly what I need 😀
“Holy shit, I just had to call someone and share this, I am stuck in traffic on Fairfax and there is some fat homeless lady SHITTING in the gutter!”
“Well….welcome to LA!”
Anyone who has been stuck in LA traffic knows how insane it is- and just so you guys can fully appreciate it, here is a vid I took years ago where a handicapped dude with a wonked up leg, gets around faster than me in my truck!
Now that you know clearly how bad it is, this intersection is even worse, 3 lights later and I haven’t moved an inch.
So when she pulled down her filthy purple sweat pants and just started shitting away next to the CVS, I was stuck there for all of it’s glory.
As she started taking care of business, I looked around at all of the people who were also witnessing this horrible, HORRIBLE sight, and to see their reactions. (I at least wanted to get something good out of this!)
People in the cars around me either didn’t even see it (great level of awareness) or they pretended like they didn’t.
Just then a small group exited the CVS and turned left, heading right towards her……finally something good was going to come of this, the guys and the girl would see it and FREAK OUT resulting in lulz
….at least I imagined they would
Slowly they got closer….and closer…UNTIL
The girl moved her head a few inches to her right….then shot it straight forward again as they walked past her.
As soon as they got a few steps past the mad shitter, I saw her elbow the guy on the left, her eyes grow large and she mouthed the words
“OH MY GOD!”
They all looked over their shoulder for a second, turned around, exchanged a few words, but didn’t look back and didn’t stop walking.
So now one of the most horrible and disgusting sites I have ever witnessed in my life, only garnered a look and an elbow, thus resulting in me calling my friend to share it with her.
Afterwards it got me thinking, one of the BIGGEST fears guys have when approaching chicks is-
THE FEAR OF BEING WATCHED
What if people are watching me hit on her?
What if I get rejected in front of people?
What if they hear what I say?
Well here is some news for you
NO ONE GIVES A SHIT!
The dirty homeles lady TAKING A SHIT proved this!
There she was, shitting for the whole world to see and
Guess what, you know how you (currently or use to) walk around in your own bubble, with your head down, missing most of what goes on in the world, and worrying about everyone else judging you…
EVERYONE DOES THAT
and the people who don’t, don’t give a fuck about you, and they sure as fuck don’t give a shit about you walking over to a girl and hitting on her!
LOOK AT THAT HETROSEXUAL OVER THERE TALKING TO THAT HOT CHICK… LETS GET HIM BOYS!!!
So lesson #1 is
GET RID OF THAT IRRATIONAL FEAR ABOUT BEING WATCHED, YOU AREN’T THAT BIG OF A DEAL IN THEIR WORLD
Next up is the fear of rejection
When was the last time a dirty bum hit you up for some spare change?
How many times has this happened in your whole life?
(hard to remember isn’t it?)
I have gotten pretty good with my serious face throughout the years, homeless people usually know better than to ask me. I also really HATE it when those fuckers hit me up.
Ya let me GIVE you some of my money, that I worked hard for, so you can go eat, or more likely, go get some drugs- FOR FREE!!!
(but I will be honest, the last one who hit me up outside the UPS store had a dog and got 75 cents from me, using the sympathy pet card…well played you dirty bearded fuck…well played)
If a bum had AA or was scared of being rejected, he wouldn’t be able to eat, or score!
I usually just ignore them, but man have I heard some HORRIBLE shit said to them in my life!
So I have rejected, or flat out ignored more bums than I could even guess, but seconds later when I get in my car, I don’t give them a second thought.
EVEN if I did, all day, until I was in bed that night looking up at the ceiling, shaking a fist and screaming
“DAMN YOU YOU FILTHY BUM! HOW DARE YOU ASK ME FOR A QUARTER!!!!!”
it would have 0% effect on him and the rest of his life
I guarantee he has already forgotten about it, so the only place that it would “live on” is in my mind.
-and back to lesson #1, even if someone else saw it, they wouldn’t care either.
Just like us walking out of the grocery store, and we see the homeless guy start to snap into action, we kick into autopilot mode and deal with it and either blow him off, make an excuse, ignore him, or give him something.
EVERY other homeless guy before him has helped program our reaction.
So lets flip it, you approach some hottie and she blows you off.
EVERY other guy who has approached her had a hand her her reaction to you, so don’t take it personally.
2nd, if she does blow you out, seconds later she has ALREADY FORGOTTEN about you and isn’t giving you a 2nd thought, so why are you?
3rd even if she DID, all that night she kept fuming over the guy who talked to her and asked her about her opinion on something, she went home and took off her push up bra and fake eyelashes, and was looking in the mirror with bloodshot eyes full of anger towards you- you would’t even know and it has 0% effect on you.
So lesson #2 is
GET RID OF THAT POINTLESS FEAR OF REJECTION, IT’S GOING TO HAPPEN, IT DOESN’T MATTER, AND THE ONLY PLACE IT LIVES ON IS IN YOUR HEAD